Lonely, ambitious women?

Question

A friend was told me that many guys are not attracted to ambitious women because it makes them feel bad about themselves. I'm not sure I understand this and it makes me feel kind of hopeless in the dating realm. I'm 22, studying to be a doctor, and have a nice personality, but I've never been on a date. Sadly, I also don't have much time to do anything besides maybe a quick dinner with friends.

Would you say that what she said was true? Or perhaps someone can clarify? I'm confused lol.

Answer 1

No, different guys like different types of women! Men aren't everything and are often more trouble than they are worth!

Maybe find a new hobby/club or join a singles group or dating agency/ ads for professionals.

Best Wishes.

Answer 2

Well, you see, its not so much that you can't go get your job as you want..but you've gotta understand that this is , and this alone will not get a guy interested.

You see, women are always attracted to the "sense of security" in a man, so women expect us, and even judge us upon, how well educated we are and our job and our ambitions. That is why it is so easy to picture a rich man with a woman in either arm.

But you, you have to make sure you are approachable. Again let me say, women expect us to be almost boastful of our acheivements. But most guys look for a more modest attitude, in a woman.

Its not that men don't like ambitious women, its that men don't value a woman's ambitions as much as the woman values the man's ambitions.

Answer 3

You answered your own question.  You have chosen not to budget time for a relationship, so clearly you aren't going to have one.  Guys aren't attracted to someone who doesn't have time for them.

Answer 4

I will answer your question: Look at it this way:

... I am 23...finishing a phd in math this year and a virgin. There was this time i used to consider myself pretty smart. But I never found a gf and never got laid. I used to wonder why!!!! But then I found out...I am applying for faculty jobs this year and the best postdocs pay only 47K.

SO MY QUESTION TO YOU IS: SHOULD I LINK THESE TWO FACTS TOGETHER AND ASK: DO WOMEN CARE ONLY ABOUT MONEY...JUST LIKE GUYS CARE ONLY ABOUT EGO?

So my advice is: don't buy into stereotypes.... you are a singular case...just like I am...

Answer 5

I'm glad you said many guys and not all guys, or i wouldn't have

married my wife 41 years ago and still am married to her and we

still couldn't be more in love with each other, btw, did i mention

the fact i was a high drop out and she was a colege graduate,

as i said, thank goodness you said many guys and not all guys,

whew! you had me worried there 4 awhile, lol . . .

When it comes to love listen to your heart not your friends mouth,

now go studdy to be a doctor, who knows your mr. right may be

stethascope away in your next class, or ironically some factory

worker who may prove your friend wrong, and not be intimidated by a

woman in white, i know i wasn't, my  wife was a RN and i was a

muscian, it's a life time later and we're both retired, oh yeh, and

we're still  making beautiful music together . . .

good luck in your career . . .