Lonerism: my future? I am a solitary 17-year-old who is too socially inept to join the others or have a gf.?

Question

Do you think I'll get depressed because I will never be like you and have a girlfriend? Or do you think (not being in my shoes) that I should make friends?

Answer 1

Because it takes Time.. :)

Answer 2

Oh, puleeeze!  I used to think like you!

You are only 17!  You just haven't found the right person yet.  

I thought I would be alone my entire life and that no one would ever fall in love with me.

I WAS WRONG!

Maybe you are too!

Answer 3

I think you should try to find some friends.  You don't have to have a large circle of friends -- just one or two or even three that you feel close to.  Join a group for some activity that you're interested in, some type of a club where you'll likely meet others with the same interests. That will make approaching people and making friends easier.   Don't worry about the girlfriend thing, that will come in time.  But you should have some friends you can talk to and share things with.   And again, don't think you need to have a ton of friends.  Having just one or two you're close with is enough and will enrich your life.  While being a "loner" is okay sometimes, if you stay completely alone you may indeed be prone to depression.

Answer 4

Dude, I am totally like you. I hang out with my Dad a lot. I'm a girl. If you're comfortable with where you are right now, or if you like being alone, don't force yourself. Someone will come. I don't have any friends either. Just relax. You won't get depressed unless you force yourself to be depressed or if you pressure yourself. Being alone is cool. No commitments, no feelings to hurt. Rock on!!!

Answer 5

I think you should have some friends, maybe you have social anxiety disorder, no matter who you are you should always have a friend to depend on.