Long distance friendship question?

Question

We are long distance since met in person about a year ago, We chat one time before he moved. So basically, we are LD friends. I decided to called him yesterday after so long and catch him by surprised, we became nervous and he was kinda shocked I did it. We were so short I wasn't able to say much, but I did told him it was nice hearing him after a year, and he said that "It's a long time".

I kinda felt like he didn't liked it, so I emailed him today thanking him for being so nice to me. He said that there's no need for that since he enjoys our friendship and communications. That we'll always be in touch. Is it that he found something in common enough to maintain this friendship this long, since we come from so diff worlds?

Answer 1

yes for sure because there are no outcome from a ld relation, except for once in a while as i have seen. just be good friends as anything more than that will cause u trouble these days as u never know who can hack ur mail or likewise. take care play safe

Answer 2

I don't disagree with you, but personally I feel that one year is not "so long", at least for me anyway.

You said you met briefly and then you more or less became an on line friend with this young man. Then out of nowhere you phoned him. He felt surprised as if you showed up at his door unannounced.

He may have been a big part of your life--on the other hand, you may not be his. He may enjoy your friendship & communications (as quoted above) via e-mail and IM--but his "personal space" may have been invaded when you called him--so you have to play it cool now.

Don't say you are sorry repeatedly--basically don't mention it unless he brings it up.

It would not be the same if both of you declared that you were a couple. But that's another story and has little to do with this.