Long story short...my daughter was bullyed this year by some girls?

Question

We had gone to the principal..blah blah...they girls wer never suspended (even though we have a no bulling policy and they threatened her but that is a whole other story)

So now that is the summer-these girls were texting her,iming her, etc with these nasty hurtful comments.

What are my options? How do I take care of thisto make sure it doesn't happen in school again?

Answer 1

Like a user above said, print all that information out save the text messages and go to the parents. Also have your daughter block these girls online and have your phone company change her cell phone number. You could always go to the principals boss since he ovbiously isn't doing his job and if that doesn't work maybe you could transfer schools. I know this because I was there and had to transfer my last year in high school because of stupid girls. I did a huge project on bullying which included a survey and 80% of kids in this middle school think that bullying is a problem and 26 of those kids have brought a weapon to school because of bullying. You really need to do something about this.

Answer 2

The sites and services these girls are using to send these have abuse policies for this very reason. Forward the emails/messages to the help desks of these companies and their accounts should be shut down (Some have a Report Abuse link on their main pages as well to make it easier.) Keep any reply emails you get from these services indicating that the accounts have been shut down etc - so if they start up another then you can re-inform the companies, along with proof that they've done this before.

The odds are they will lose their cell phone accounts (if using them to txt)- or their parents will be held responsible for their abusive behaviour when the account is shut off but they are still charged the full service fee.

You might also be able to block their numbers/emails as well in your filter settings, or call your service provider with their info to have them blocked.

If they ARE threats, and want to take it a step further, then you can contact the police (using a non-emergency number) and show them the threatening messages and they should go have a talk with these girls. At this point the parents will also be informed.

Before the school year starts, arrange an appointment (without your daughter there) with the principle and perhaps her guidance councilor. Ask outright what their bullying policy is, ask for a copy and then come up with a plan with them for preventing your daughter from having these issues, as well as enforcing them. Ask that she not have her locker near them, does not share any classes with them, and that when/if there is a problem, there is a direct route of contact to the principle for reporting them. Have evidence of their messages with you when you go, and if you feel you're not being taken seriously, then inform him/her you will be contacting the school board directly.

If you feel you'd like to let their parents know, then give them a call directly and tell them in a polite way what is happening. Hopefully they will be upset at their daughter(s) and apologize on their behalf (and then do something about it), but if they get angry at you, then simply inform them that if the behaviour continues, you'll be contacting the police and say goodbye.

Talk to your daughter about how to report incidents, how to not react emotionally to their faces (and thus give them the feedback they want) and that you're there for her. Offer her outside help if needed, and if she feels physically threatened, perhaps some self defense classes will help her feel more confident and allow for her to defend herself if truly needed. (And hey, it's a useful skill anyway!)

Good luck and hopefully those girls get a life sometime soon.

Answer 3

First I get my child a new phone #. My guess is if they don't get a rise out of her they'll lose interest.

But if you choose to do it through the school, be sure your child does NOT give this girl any attention and just make the school aware of it before hand.

Call the cops, police showing up at the child's door may work.

Only other option would be for your child to stand up to her. I had a bully in high-school. This girl would call my house, drive by my house, follow me around school calling me names, crazy stalking behavior, I didn't stand up to her. Come that summer out of school I caught her out one night without all her little buddies and laid into her @ss. Didn't have a problem with her that next school year.

Answer 4

Talk to their parents it will help or tell your daughter to avoid those girls.

Answer 5

How old are these girls and you daughter?? You may try talking to their parents..and techers when school starts back about keeping them sepreated. Bullying could interfere with grades, social development, and self esteem so I would definately talk to someone. If nothing else works, call the police and ask about a restaining order (depending on the age and if you fear for your daughter's safety). Hope this helped. Good Luck!

Answer 6

Print and keep a copy of everything they send to your daughter and then go to the parents with your "proof". ( They'll deny it if you don't have anything).

If that doesn't work, contact the police and file a report for harassment.  Take a copy of that to the school board at the first session of the year (usually end of summer).  Let them know your concerns about the prior year and that you will not tolerate it this year.  They are required to do something and again when you bring proof, they can not deny it.

I would also set your daughter up with someone to talk to besides you in all of this.  My daughter went through it and having an outside opinion on what she could do when I wasn't there was a huge help.  The teasing/hitting didn't stop right away but she was taught effective skills at how to handle individual situtatons and not blame herself or buy into what the girls were saying.

Answer 7

Don't erase the messages and if they are harassment you can turn them over to the police department.

You should contact your school board if the principal will not do anything.  Find out what your rights are and insist that the school plays by the rules.  Have you contacted these girls parents?  They  may not be aware of what is going one.

Most schools take bullying very seriously these days I am not sure why yours isn't.