Long story (sorry!) but I could really use some advice!?

Question

seem to have developed a crush on a guy from work (lets call him Drew), and I am finding myself attracted to this OTHER guy from work (we'll call him Nathan)... however I am in a long term relationship, very happy, and I don't want to end it (I know, its really bad!). Lately I have been thinking about these guys a fair bit, especially "Drew", and I have having dreams about them, mostly where I am in close friendship type scenarios with "Drew" (eg, hanging out at work, driving in a car together, going to courses etc) and some where I am in a hurry to meet "Nathan" somewhere (eg, a holiday destination etc), but I am held up by things going wrong at work or running out of petrol or something and then being rescued by "Drew". These dreams are the most real and vivid dreams I have ever had.

I am confused and wondering if this means anything? Especially, I'm worried that I am going to want to cheat on my guy with either "Drew" or "Nathan". I have never cheated before, and I know its easy for people to say "If you don't want to cheat, then you don't cheat", but those people who say that don't feel what I am feeling.

Any advice or anything, is really appreciated.

Answer 1

if u keep thinking of "drew" then it means somthin...

Answer 2

i felt that way i really liked this guy in my class when i was going out with someone and i broke up with my bf and then i found out that he only acted like he liked me becasue of a bet so stay with ur man unless u r truley unhappy and want to try seeing other ppl

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Answer 3

if you were really happy in your relationship you wouldnt be thinking about the other guys, you may very well love your man right now but the fact your drifting means there is something lacking in your relationship now, find out what this is and work on it with your man so that the attraction to the other men wont be there,also they may also be very attractive and there may be a bit of lust there as this may be what your own sexual relationship is lacking,

Answer 4

tell ur boyfriend.

if it is out in the open then your feelings will show their true light.

u will know who u really like.

if your boyfriend loves u then he will stay and try to spice things up so that u don't fantasize.

Answer 5

honey your falling for drew, be with him if you wan't but cut the other guy loose and let him find someone else, prolonging this will only hurt him, and you might lose drew, but first see if drew likes you, the other guy can find someone else so let him.

Answer 6

3some.  If you're going to cheat, may as well knock it out of the park!

Answer 7

natural to think of this stuff. might mean nothing.

Answer 8

Try to put these guys out of your mind as much as possible. Every time you see them think of the person your with instead of them.

Answer 9

If you are dreaming about other men and fantasizing about workmates then you need to admit there is something missing in your current relationship.If everything were fine there you would not be looking further afield, you know?

If you want to fix it get some counseling or really talk to your partner about your wants and needs. Honestly, probably neither of these guys is ideal for you. they are just there a lot and you want something romantic in your life.

Try fixing your current relationship. Not jumping into a new one for all the wrong reasons.

Answer 10

i always have really vivid dreams that are similar to yours.  i decided i have those kind of dreams cause i'm bored.  i'm bored with life, or who i'm dating, or something.  like i need something exciting a new!  if i were you i would try something new, whether it be with your man, or just a new hobbie to occupy your thoughts, or whatever!  thats what worked for me.  

Answer 11

You may want to consider what's going on in your primary relationship before trying to decide if you should "cheat" or not. You say you're happy; but happy how? It's one thing to get along with someone, another to remain faithful. It sounds like you need someone to talk to and share with, which you get from D and N, but, I don't know, maybe not from Mr. Primary?  

Answer 12

You're not crazy, weird, mean, or sick to think or feel this way. You might be a little confused but I have an answer.

This sort of thing happens when a relationship is too routine or lacking some sort of 'action' or 'spark'. These feelings you have for these other guys is natural -- you're a woman so your bond with men is different then a man would have with women.

You can't hate yourself or put yourself down for feeling towards someone else. Try to sit down with your significant other and try to talk with him about your relationship. Don't mention the other guys... but hint that there's something left to be desired.

There's more to the story, I'm sure and there's a lot more I could tell you but I'm headed to bed for now.

Just message me if you're confused or need a longer and more formatted answer.

I wish you the best,

- Hex