Looking for adopted son - born 5/10/67?

Question

to start, my name is Rosalee Gardner - Lindenmuth

Known information about my son.

Birth date: May 10th, 1967.

Birth place: Manhattan, Kansas

Adoption place: Columbus, Georgia

Birth name : Grant Gardner / Lindenmuth

Adoption type: Closed

His Current Age would be 41 years old

I think about him a lot, and I realize that I made a big mistake in keeping the adoption closed. I would really like to meet my son, who I love with my whole heart.

if you know anyone like this, or you yourself are like this, please share any information

Thank you so much, and God Bless.

Answer 1

Hope that you will find your son soon!

Answer 2

you should go to your nearest wellfare organisation!

Answer 3

folow the foster care if more than one that your son went to hope you will find him

Answer 4

Hello. I am adopted and while I was brought up with a caring and loving family,the Mum and Dad I had were old enough to be my grandparents but they gave me a home and a life and I love them for that,to me they were my Mum and Dad sadly they are both dead now and never lived long enough to see their great grand children, I'm a father and grandfather,however for both my son and daughter I can't go back anywhere  in my real family to let them know anything,it's kind of like the buck stops here.I have been lucky because I have built my own family.For me however I know nothing of my real family and I would dearly love to I've tried tracing them because that's what adopted people do when they get older and realise differences we want to know what is in our own history and for different reasons Medical backgrounds being just one of them. When we are born we don't get to choose our parents,however when you are adopted you become very special  because you get chosen and when you understand that you feel good but it never stops you wondering about the parent or parents who gave you up and for what reason.I am a grandpa now and I know that my three grandsons can go back as far as me but no farther and I wish they could. If I was to meet my real Mum and Dad would I be able to call them Mum or Dad something they might expect,for me I don't know because my love is for the people who brought me up. The otheer thing is do I have brothers and sisters I don't know and would I feel good if I found that out Probably but again I don't know.I have a void in my life one that I should not have but it's there and will probably remain there to my dying day.I wish you well but more importantly I wish you and your son Gods blessing.

Answer 5

Go back to the agency where you had the adoption set up. They may be able to help you find him or try searching for his name through telephone records.  Good luck I hope you find him!

Answer 6

I hope you find your son, don't stop looking, but be prepared for the good or the bad. Can you face the rejection?

I've been in reunion for 7 years and I am so glad I looked and she is too.

Good luck.

Answer 7

Think about this.

Your son is 42 years old. He has loved his ENTIRE life maybe knowing he was adopted, but not knowing you. He may have a different name, he may live somewhere else. He may not want to see you, and how will this affect you, how will afftect him? He may have children who already think they have grandparents, his adoptive parents.

I'm sure you've given it alot of thought however, and I think that registers are your best bet, especially if your son want to be found by you!

I think your doing the right thing, and good luck!

Answer 8

I'm also looking for my son born 5/10/90....I saw the date first and my heart jumped. I hope the best to you in your search!

Answer 9

I was lucky enough to find my birth family after 5yrs and it was done over the internet on findmybiologicalparents.com. I knew my birth name and yes it took all day but a name came up and voila! I dont know what the future holds but I'm up for it I am going up to NWT to meet them this summer!

Answer 10

d**n.. good luck and im sorry!

Answer 11

Are you aware of the adoption laws in Georgia or Kansas? Make sure that you get on any "official" local registries in each state. Sometimes the state offers search and reunion registries or aided searches.

Have you contacted the adoption agency that you went through and requested the "non-identifying" information? Sometimes, if you ask the right questions with the right person... they will tell you things that they should not. Try to play the yes/no game with the people you talk with where you ask questions and all they have to do is answer yes or no.

Do not give up and remember the squeaky wheel gets the grease... be annoying!!!

Be sure to join some Yahoo! groups for search and reunion in each state... you would be surprised to find that there are people on those forums that can tap resources that you didn't know existed. Also, join any local adoption support groups in your area, they too can help in your search.

Answer 12

I see you're on registries already.  Just ensure you're on ISRR.net too and I presume you have also looked into State registries, although I know alot of them don't work; particularly as they seem to have a rule that the adoptee must be born AND adopted within the same state to qualify to register.

Therefore please never assume that just because someone isn't registered, they don't want to be found.  So many of us have found these registries don't work - especially the State -run registries, because of all the rules preventing people from being eligible to register and also because they are so poorly publicized.

My Mom wasn't registered but she is just thrilled that I found her.

Don't rely on registries alone - get in touch with people who know the ropes in the State you are searching in and go down every avenue, sometimes twice

Contact DMV - I don't know if they can help you but if there was a way to track males with his birthdate, that would be a good start.

There are also places like intelius where you can enter a birthdate and gender and kind of go through a process of elimination.  It's like finding a needle in a haystack, but it can and is being done - people find each other despite the archaic sealed records.  It just takes a little perseverence and quite a thick skin to brush off all the old-fashioned negative judgemental people who feel they have the right to interfere in other people's freedom of association.

I wish you all the luck in the world reuniting with your son.  I know I would have been thrilled if my mother had found me.