Looking people in the eyes

Question

i am very timid, yet i crossdress at school and perform my music... talking to people, I'm afraid to look into peoples eyes. i want to be professional, i want to be able to be trusted... and i need to look into peoples eyes without fear... its not about not being afraid, its about.. how do i not be afraid? any tips? love yas :) thank you

Answer 1

start practising looking into others eyes..im sure u look into your family's eyes when talking with them...why is that ...because you know them ..are comfortable with their mistakes...but when it comes to strangers...maybe u feel they are perfect and you are not...that is absolutely NOT true....noone or nothing is perfect...start looking into someones eye for a brief second today..mebbe the cashier at the store...oh another thing....looking into ones eye for long periods does not mean professionalism or honesty..it could be perceived as rude...an occasional glance will do

Answer 2

Practice,  look them in the face for a little bit at a time.  Maybe when they are talking, or you are talking.   When you find your rhythm you will be fine.  It just takes practice.  

Answer 3

Don't be afraid to look people in the eyes.  As a performer look at many people in the eyes because as an audience member it gives me a sense of a personal touch with the performer.  It sounds like you are confident of your show and if people are enjoying your act looking in the eyes of your audience will make them feel part of your act.  If you avoid your audience they will feel like you don't want to be there and shyness is sometimes mistaken for arrogance.  I hope this helps you and improve your skills with an audience.  I sometimes do public speaking because my husband is in politics and eye contact with any audience of anykind is important.  by the way I love cross-dressing shows.

Answer 4

When it's not important, i follow my natural instincts and don't look people in the eye... Though i am a very trustworthy person.

Anyway, when it is important i just look them in the eye, my chin feels like it's moving back and i feel like my eyes are squinting, but i just smile, look them in the eye and pretend this person really knows and respects me.

Try not to overdo it though, don't wanna seem crazy.

You'll seem charming if you show that you can look them in the eye... Glance away every 3 or 4 seconds...

Answer 5

if you don't lok people in the eye, they won't trust you

grow up, mature, face your fear, it isn't as bad as you think

Answer 6

"Eyes" the windows of the world. Here is a overlooked relative fact; the eyes are the windows then who gives us the right to window peak into another person's world? isn't this like voyeurism? On the contrary our society has overstated the mannerism and called it o.k. Is there something you are looking for when you desire a look at the other person's eyes? Are you being conscious of what you may be thinking of what others opinion of you? I'm sure thier social ettiquettes will survive without your influence. Keep your modesty intact you owe nothing to others,not even a "good morning!"