Looking to Adopt a baby?

Question

We are looking to adopt and most processes seem to be such a wait. They said that sometimes it can take several years to finish the processes & find one. Does anyone know if you find someone who wants to give up their baby for adoption and together you and the birthmother handle it through lawyers, etc. Does that make it quicker and how would you go about this?

Answer 1

In WA state there is a program for unwed mothers at Overlake Christian Church.  I haven't been home in nearly 10 years so I can't really remember many details,  But if you call them, they have some pregnant girls who want to let their babies go for adoption,  and they want to be involved in the choosing of the adoptive parents.

As I said... its a service I never used, and its a 10-yr old memory... but its worth a look-see.

Answer 2

Yes, it is possible to find your own birthmother and proceed with the adoption using lawyers.  However, if the birthmother is in a different state from you, there could be some confusion.  We ran into that trouble.  You will still need to have a home study done and the typical background checks.  Our attorney suggested that we have an adoption agency that was licensed in both states do the adoption paperwork as an "identified" adoption.  It was much cheaper than doing a regular adoption process where they locate the biological parents for you, and it did go much quicker for us.  

Just make sure that you involve a lawyer and/or an agency to insure that you and the child are protected.  You don't want anything to be done wrong that would affect the finalization.  

Good luck to you.

Answer 3

maybe you could go to or call familly planning in your area,  some one would know there, Id even go as far as putting a add in the paper nice couple wonting to adopt....see what happens, and then again I hope, ill pray that others that have been there will contact you. God bless.

Answer 4

Yes, it can be quicker.  It can also be very expensive.  Adoption lawyers can handle this kind of situation, usually charging substantial fees, and still not everything is within their control, since as an adoptive parent you have to complete a homestudy which includes things like getting your fingerprints checked by the state, physicals, babyproofing your home, lots of paperwork.  Making contact with and entering into an agreement with a potential birth mother is not an easy job, either, and includes risks, since a pregnant woman is not a birth mother until she makes her final decision.  Still, if it seems a good possibility to you, find a good lawyer, read everything carefully, and be willing to go through a lot of work and worry with the potential of a lot of joy.

Answer 5

There is always a long wait for healthy babies, but if you were willing to take a small child instead, or a baby with some disabilities, there are children waiting to be adopted right now.

Answer 6

It does go faster. It is a direct adoption where the mother choses the parents. Alot of times the adoptive parents especially the adoptive mother can be part of the pregnancy and attend a lot of the doctors appointments and ultrasounds. I know this from first hand experience because one of my closest friends did this. She was even in there for the birth of the baby. There are websites where you can post a profile and mothers can look at the profile of the parents. The easiest way is if you or someone you know knows someone who is pregnant that wants to put the child up for adoption. I wish you the best of luck and I hope this is helpful. If you would like you could e-mail me and I will see if I can get you some more information from my friend. Again good luck.

Answer 7

To answer your first question, the process doesn't need to take a really long time to adopt a healthy baby. We are also looking into adoption and the adoption social worker we spoke with said that it would be possible to adopt a health baby within a year. In many states (not in my state, CT, though) it is possible to place "ads" in papers, websites etc. to let potential birth mothers know you are looking to adopt. It sounds like if you put lots of time and effort into "advertising" it could speed up the process. There are lots of good books and websites out there. "Adoption Resource Book" is a good one! Best of luck to you!