Losing touch with reality?

Question

About a year ago, I told my best friend that I was in love with her, but she didn't feel the same way. Over the last few months, I've been having dreams where different things happen instead of what really did when I told her. It's getting to the point where I'm almost not sure what's a real memory of her or what's just another nightmare. The dreams have ranged from her changing her mind to her letting me down gently to us talking about pancakes (they don't make alot of sense sometimes). Is this only about the fact that I'm not over her (because I know that I'm never going to be over her) or is it more than that? Can ayone answer?

Answer 1

HEy I really think that dreams happen mostly when you do not think something through ,.. they come back as dreams and your subconscious mind plays to you all the possibilities. I have always noticed that when I consciously avoid thinking about something then I see it in my dreams. I guess you must have tried accepting your best freind's answerr as final and purposely did not think about other possibilities that could be. You must have not wanted to give your self false hope and so its going to haunt you in your dreams. The more you leave it unresloved the more your subconscious mind tends to resolve it for you. Maybe I am wrong and that is not at all the case with yopu .. But I have observed this pattern in me.

Answer 2

I have had the same type of issue in the past with trying to remember what was a memory and what was a dream and I started to realize for myself that basically it means that I am not happy with the reality thats taking place so my subconscious wants me to think otherwise. So all that you really want is just for your friend to be in love with you. Tell your friend whats been happening to you and she might come around because letting her know that your in love with her can be a turn on.

If my advice didn't work out to well try this out www.dreammoods.com/dreamdictionary

Good Luck!

Answer 3

Some times dreams are just that...dreams.  They don't always make sense and they don't always mean something.  If I were you.  Write down what actually happened and then you always know for sure w/o all the confusion.  You could also try and write down the dreams in the morning after you have them - perhaps look deeper into the meaning of them.  I think you're still bothered by this event or how things turned out and your mind is still wrestling on it.  Know that even though you go to sleep, your mind never rests, and is constantly running (we just usually don't remember any of it).  

If you think about the situation and realize that you're not over her, then perhaps you should deal with those emotions.  Realize that you're a good person and deserve an equal relationship with another; meaning, you deserve someone who loves you just as much as you love them.  There are literally billions of people on this earth and I can guarantee you'll find a significant other who'll appreciate who you are and will love the time spent with you...don't settle for anything less and move on so you can enjoy life with a wonder person.  

Good Luck!

Answer 4

you have to get over her. destroy everything that reminds you of her b/c wut ur describing isn't very healthy. it sounds like you have paranoia or something, maybe move and see a psychologist or therapist.

Answer 5

This must be a miserable situation to deal with. There's absolutely nothing you can do to bring the past back nor to change the past.

I suppose it could haunt you as long as you keep thinking about it.

A dream is only a dream. Try to re-focus on things you can do something about Now.  There's no other way to go but forward.

Learn from things you don't like about your past and try not to repeat them. If you have a story to tell, write a book or something, but don't keep reliving things that have no significance for you now. Treasure good memories and stop making up things for anything other than for a book.  If you need to, write some things down in a journal, then do so.  maybe this would help you?

Focus on your future now.  This is The time to do so !  There are things you should be focusing on now. I found a book called Powerful Attitudes and I suggest you get something to encourage your own personal growth. Pursue things that will bring change into your life.

You can have a great future but you must seek for that road. You can have a great life is you will focus on your own life and do it now !

Only you can do this for you !  Put the past behind you, be thankful for the good times, then let it be what it is,  p a s t.....You deserve a great future !  Go after it now !  

Blessings and peace to you !

Answer 6

Oh NEWZ....you are just fantasizing! Try not to think of her so much.

Answer 7

You've made up your mind that you will never get over her. How is your mind supposed to behave? The dreams will continue. The loss of reality will put you further into dreamland.The good news is that no one has ever 'lost reality' completely to the point of death or hospitalization. In other words, you will be ok. She is probably beaming now that she has a crush. Why not see what happens if you date someone else. You might feel better and may actually be happier. Give the alternatives a shot and quit thinking your doomed.  

Answer 8

I'm in my late 50's.  Several times a year I dream about a girl I was in love with in high school.  In my dreams we are just spending time together, enjoying each other's company.  In reality, we never had even one date.

I think I'm over her.  She is happily married and I am happy for her.  I have dated a lot of other women and have loved a few others.  I think the dreams are just "noise," the residue of having had a life.