Losing virginity, did it hurt? did you actually get any pleasure from it?

Question

i found it literally unbearble...i think my boyfriend was going to deep but it was my first time and i didnt get any any any enjoyment from it at all. it hurt so much and i know it will the first time, but did you find this too? and does it get better the next time or does it hurt the first few times? i seriously cannot take that again!

Answer 1

yeah it hurt the first time but it gets better. it will still probly hurt a little the next couple of times but not as bad as the first time. make sure you tell your boyfriend to go a little slower so you can adjust and wont hurt as much.

Answer 2

It did not hurt.  I guess there was one quick instant of kind-of-pain that lasted for like a second; then it was fine.  I got plenty of pleasure from it, although I didn't have an o****m (I have never had an o****m from penetration - I'm just not rigged that way.  That's okay, I have other methods ;) ).  I did have to tell my boyfriend to slow down so I could enjoy it more, though.  :D

I think I had such a good time because I'd spent plenty of time figuring out what felt good to me before I had s*x for the first time.  I had been masturbating for many years, and I'd had boyfriend in the past that I did a lot of experimenting with, although I never did anything that might get me pregnant just to be on the safe side.  I think the key to enjoying s*x is taking your time with it - just have fun.  Don't be in a hurry to get a p***s inside of you.  There is way more to it than that, especially for women.  It's okay to just explore each other's bodies, go slow, and chill out.  Spend a lot - A LOT - of time on foreplay to get your body prepared.  You'll know when you're ready for penetration.  You'll just feel that the time is right.  It shouldn't hurt then, and if it does it definitely wil only be for a second and won't be that bad.

Contrary to what other people here are saying, you don't "progress" as you have intercourse.  Your v****a doesn't stretch out with use.  Only having a child will permanently change the shape of your v****a.  A p***s or a few fingers isn't nearly large enough to make a permanent change in your anatomy.  Even the biggest human p***s on the planet won't do that.  Think about it:  Your v****a is made to pass a baby's head and shoulders through, and then go back to its normal size to protect the next child that will grow in your womb.  It's a VERY elastic organ, and it will basically always be what it's like now, unless you have several children.

What WILL make s*x better for you is FOREPLAY.  When you are sexually aroused, your v****a naturally relaxes, opens up, and makes plenty of room for a p***s to enter.  You will naturally produce lubrication which reduces the friction and makes it feel good.  But you have to get yourself aroused enough for that FIRST.

If you don't already m********e, I suggest that you try it.  You need to figure out how your body works, and get to know what kinds of touching feels good, and where your sexual partners should touch you to get you really turned on.  This is a very important part of sexuality.  You need to know - really know - what works for you, and work with your own body.  If you do that, s*x will be very enjoyable for you.

Answer 3

i remember my first time. it hurt SOOO BAD and i didnt enjoy it at all. and i bled alot for a couple of days...so i went a year without havin s*x again, and when i finally did it didnt hurt as bad but it hurt a lil. you'll get used to it after a while. tell him to take it slow the next time...or give you some oral before he starts penetrating. just make sure you're not dry cause thats painful!

Answer 4

In my opinion it almost always hurts the first few times. Especially if your man is well endowed. However, you can get more pleasure and be distracted from the pain if he massages your clitoris while entering you. Also, good foreplay helps. Example, oral s*x, kissing, massages, etc. Last but not least, remember to relax. Hope this helps...

Answer 5

Okay, well the first time for my gf was painful for her too. As you progress, your muscles down there become less tense and you will actually get pleasure from it. Make sure youre using condoms.

Answer 6

The best is yet to come hun dont worry lol

maybe try toys on urself it mite help you!

Answer 7

It hurts the first few times, but after a while, the good part comes. My first time I was in so much pain, that I didn't want to consider doing it again. But after a bit that all went away, and s*x was more so pleasurable than painful. The next time you decide to have s*x, tell your boyfriend to try to take it easy. Don't let it scare you, cause it definately gets better in the long run. Good luck!

Answer 8

honestly, my first (consensual) experience was the same.  But I was 14..so I was quite "small."  the s*x will just get better better it takes a few times for it to start feeling nice.

I would suggest asking your boyfriend to either slow down, or you be on top so you can control how much he goes in and such (sorry this is in detail so much lol).