Lost my virginity months ago, but just now getting emotional?

Question

I lost my virginity at the beginning of june and just recently i have started feeling a little sad.

I am only 17 and i wasnt planning on losing my virginity.

I was hanging out with one of my good friends, and she introduced me to alot of her guy friends.

We were at a large party and i become very drunk. I have never been that drunk before.

Anyway, i started kissing this guy who was with us earlier that day and i thought was cute.

But then some how we ended up in a car, and then it just happened.

I can only remember a few things.

The guy i had lost my birginity to was bragging about things i did that i dont remember to my friends, so i had to hear alot of the details from people that werent even there.

I havent seen the guy since, he has called me, but i just ignored all of the calls.

But anyway, just about a week ago it hit me, and i got really sad that i lost my virginity to a guy i havent seen since, just met, and i was so drunk that i cant remember most of it.

Why now? I thought i was fine, but i actually cant stop thinking about him and what happened. And now i am feeling this attraction to him.

But why months afterwards? How do i get over this? Its really making me sort of depressed.

and i didnt think it was a big deal before, but now i just feel bad.

Mainly because of how drunk i was and the situation.

please no rude answers. i need help.

Answer 1

i think if he's calling you, you should talk to him about it.

and there's no way you  can ever take it back, so don't dwell on it.

just think about wether or not you want a relationship with this guy, and be forward with him.

if i was you, i would give it a shot.

Answer 2

Sadly you can't rewind time.

It will only take time and having some great friends around you to lean on.

Answer 3

Yeah, that is hard.

I really recommend talking about this to someone - a close friend, a family member, someone you can trust - or an older woman with experience in these things.

If youd like to talk to a s*x counceler you could always email [e-mail]

the main thing to keep in mind is that it happened, so you want to try to move forward as much as you can with this - and you have learned a lesson which is what life is all about.

Answer 4

maybe you just started dealing with the reality and thinking about it...

this is going to sound mean but you will just have to get over that fact because you can't change what you did...

Answer 5

Kiddo, I feel for you.

First off, what you are feeling is normal... especially due to the circumstances of losing your virginity.

I really recommend talking to a counselor about this. I think if you don't, it may get harder for you or you may make mistakes in decision making that could further make you feel upset.

Also know, losing your virginity is not just a physical thing... it is emotional too. Maybe you lost it physically, but emotionally you can still give it away to the right guy at the right time... on your terms.

If you want to talk, I'm here.

Answer 6

Well that's a shame you didn't get the chance to lose it to someone you had real feelings for but trust me it's not the end of the world. I'm 17 too but I lost my virginity when I was 14 which was way too young and yeah I regreted it but I got over it pretty quickly and just promised myself I wouldn't have s*x again untill I found someone I really cared about and I kept the promise to myself and waited until I had a boyfriend that I truly cared about. So just wait until you find someone special before you do it again. It's not the end of the world. Oh and that guy kind of sounds like a douche bag for taking advantage of you so I definitely wouldn't talk to him anymore.

Answer 7

Sorry to hear about your situation. What's probably got you depressed(feeling down) is that you lost your virginity in a not so special way. It can really make you feel like "Why did I do that" and regret it. I felt the same way b/c I lost mine and I wasn't very fond of the guy. What I can advise you to do is pray about it and ask God for help on feeling depressed b/c what's done is done. Just make sure that the next time you make a decision its really what you want to do. As for the guy stay away b/c if he didnt have the respect to keep your business to himself he is definitely not the one for you.

I hope my answer will help give you a piece of mind.

Answer 8

Thats really sad that you lost it that way. Hopefully you will learn from this mistake. And the guy is a creep for taking advantage of you when you were drunk and then bragging about it.

I think you should put it behind you , don't pretend it never happened, just get over it and maybe the next time you sleep with someone it can be the way you imagined your first time would be.