Lost sexual desire at young age?

Question

So I think I have a problem! I have completly lost my sexual desire and appetite for s*x but im in my early 20s!!!! I dont know whats wrong with me! I was extremely sexual in my teens and I used to always love s*x. So i really dont know whats been happening to me in the past few months.

Ive been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about 2 years and I still find him attractive and stuff. And its not like the s*x is boring, per se, I mean we try different positions and different places but Im just not into anymore. And i dont think its him because i dont find myself sexually attracted to any guys ive come across lately either.

Help?! Will I never feel the same sexual appetite I once had!? That would be very depressing!

Answer 1

This is normal. Your body is probably just trying to take a break. And if you have any added stress this may be a culprit also. Dont worry though it'll come back. In the mean time try working on stimulating you mind and spirit instead of your body and maybe you'll learn new ways to become aroused.

Good Luck and Dont worry about it.

Answer 2

I don't think you lost your s*x drive, maybe the s*x is too habitual you and your man to spice things up either with roleplaying, toys or different locations..or positions lol good luck!!

Answer 3

Low s*x Drive

    For 80% of the women who seek s*x Therapy, the presenting complaint is Low s*x Drive (LSD) or Inhibited Sexual Desire (ISD.) It used to be considered a female "problem" but now almost as many men as women complain of low s*x drive.

    Couples used to have s*x on average of 2.2 times a week. Today, if they are lucky, once a week is the norm.

    There can be many reasons. Professional therapists will assess whether the decreased s*x drive is the result of:

    1. DINTS - Double Income, No Time for s*x. With both partners working, the demands of children and aging parents, finances, job insecurity, many couples would rather just sleep than have a romp in the sack.

    2. s*x is boring, partner may be inconsiderate or unresponsive.

    3.Unresolved anger, resentment and hostility in the relationship. If she is thoroughly po'd at him, if she feels that she is doing the lion's share of child care and housework, she is unlikely to be a s*x kitten in bed. On the other hand if she pranged the car and blew the budget, he may find it difficult to become aroused and have s*x.

    4. If they have never established "clues", subtle little hints that "tonight's the night," if she feels like a s**t for indicating that she is horny, or if he feels like an oversexed pervert implying that s*x would be fun on Sunday morning, then they will both miss out.

    5. If either is withholding s*x to punish the other for some perceived injustice such as an affair.

    6. Fear of an unplanned pregnancy or sexually transmitted disease such as warts or herpes. Or fear that the kids will barge in. Fear that he will hurt her during or after a pregnancy.

    7. Guilt, if either has been involved in an outside relationship.

    8. Sometimes one partner is simply turned off by s*x.

    9. Depression or anxiety.

    10. After the birth of a baby, her s*x drive does not come back, or he was so traumatized by pregnancy and delivery that he just does not want to touch his partner.

    11. They love their partner, love hugging as long as it does not result in that "copulatory gaze" and the feelings of rejection if it is not returned.

    12. Medications such as antidepressants, sedatives, high blood pressure medication, conditions such as diabetes, stroke, heart condition or Spinal Cord Injury.

    13. Male or female sexual abuse, either past or present.

    14. One partner may be turned off if their partner has gained a great deal of weight or has poor personal hygiene, shower, brush their teeth etc.

    15. Your hormone levels may be changing. You can get your doctor to check this.

    All of these problems can be resolved with help from a professional. So, don't throw in the towel. Your s*x life is like any other skill - work at it and it will get better. Counselling and learning better communication skills will help.

Answer 4

It could be because of stress or anxiety, or maybe it's just a phase you're going through. I went through a similar thing in my early 20s for a few months (I'm still not sure why) but now my s*x drive is higher than it's ever been (now that I'm not getting any! lol!) As for your boyfriend, you should take advantage of this situation and find things you and your boyfriend can do together that don't involve s*x. It will help you guys appreciate each other more, and the s*x will be even better when your s*x drive comes back again! Also avoiding worrying about it, as that will make it worse. Good luck!

Answer 5

you,ve macd  do,nt worry

Answer 6

Are you possibly depressed and just don't know it?  Not everyone feels 'sad' when they are depressed, so it can go by unnoticed.  Also, depression doesn't have to occur as the result of some traumatic or big event.  Unipolar depression and bipolar depression are both largely genetic and the result of a chemical imbalance of the brain.  I bring this up because loss of s*x drive can be a symptom.

Stress or diet may also be the culprit.  Or your body could be going through some natural phase at the moment where it's on downtime.  If you still don't feel like your old self in a couple of months, I'd say go see a doctor.

Answer 7

You're not alone. I'm 19 and I've been with my bf for 3 years, and I can relate.  I still love him and am attracted to him, and don't feel sexually attracted to other men, but I don't crave s*x often.  I find the best thing to do is just give more time in between, because it's better if it's not forced.  If you give your body time to want it, your desire will come back.