Love and loveless I really need help with this one as honest as possible?

Question

I have been with my guy for 2 years and like anyone we have the good and the bad. He is 30 and I am 22. I am not just young and dumb I have had a long life of experiences.

So through some of the bad times that we have been through we have broken up and I was heart broken I really loved this man.

Now I think about the possibility of breaking up and for some reason I just don't feel as though it will effect me like it has so many times before.

To be honest we haven't had s*x in over a week and I don't desire too. I don't call him, I mean if he calls he calls and I can go without seeing him it doesn't bother me one bit.

Yesterday he pinned me in the kitchen and he started kissing me (which me haven't done in awhile) and then he looked me in the eyes and said that he really loves me. I smiled and gave him a kiss and then he asked if I still love him because I never tell him anymore and I said of course and told him that I love him.

Honestly I feel as though I would be fine with or without him? Have I fallen out of love with the only man that I have ever loved? Can I get it back or am I just going through a phase?

Answer 1

It sounds like you are not getting the feelings you want from this person. You are now 22 and may be feeling more comfortable with who you are. Maybe a break would help you and you would be able to take some time and really pin point what you want from a mate.

Answer 2

Love maybe considered to be an emotion, but it is not just about feelings. Love is many things.. its compassion, its caring more about the other person than your self, it is not self serving. Love is not sexual gratification, it is the outcome. So don't be alarmed or worried if you not going at it every moment.

And yes relationships have Phases, I call them seasons. It can't be spring all year, and we need to go through winters too.