Love does or does not hurt?

Question

I always hear people say both. My wife, I loved - still love, cheated on me. We were having problems so she used this as her excuse...all we really needed was a little counseling. But it truly hurt me that she could disrespect me the way she did and it hurt even more when she got engaged to this guy this 2 weeks after our split. And now she can come back and admit she was wrong and apologize which hurts even more - cause she took me through all that for nothing. So my question is, why is it that people say love doesn't/shouldn't hurt when it does? Maybe I just don't understand the phrase.

Answer 1

ya gotta fynd the right one.

everyones love will hurt sometym .

and will feel good other tymes.

youve got to find the right man/woman the one you can trust a soul mate.

i know this sound weird butdating websites help to find someone most like yourslef.

its helps to find the one .

looks arent evrythinkk  

Answer 2

Of course love hurts, when you're the one who still loves !  She doesn't love you, or she wouldn't have cheated on you.  She wouldn't have gotten engaged to another man.  She may have realized her error, and she may admit she was wrong, but she needed an escape out of your relationship once -- she'll need it again, too.  Love shouldn't hurt, because when TWO people love each other, they don't intentionally go out and hurt each other.

Answer 3

Is she wanting to make it work now? Can you forgive her? If you can and you are certain she is going to commit you have to put it all in the past and press on toward the future.  My prayers are with you.

Answer 4

Love does hurt! either way around it, even without cheating, love will be painful at times...that's what makes it so special when you really love someone! Clearly you love this woman of yours or else u wouldnt be hurting inside

Answer 5

love hurts

and in life there is going to be people who hurt us we just have to know who is worth the pain  

Answer 6

huh?  

Answer 7

I think it's just a saying that is supposed to make you think...or possibly debate about it...

You've been hurt alot and it sounds like you need to spend time on yourself and on healing. Don't worry about the "love hurts or doesn't hurt".  

Answer 8

Love can't hurt.. but who you love can hurt you.. Love is innocent and a nice feeling but the person you love can be a mean person who cheats all the time and hurt you! It's not love that's hurting you it's the person who you love... I'm sorry to hear how she was treating you.. it was just wrong of her. You sound like a good guy and it's rare to get guys like you.. x_X She was wrong! Love should be a nice happy feeling where you are truly happy with each other and it's just an awesome feeling... but people just take advantage of that.. and end up hurting you.. be more careful on who people you CHOOSE to love.. and don't love...

Good luck and I'm sorry..

Answer 9

Emotions are a part of love, but love its self is not emotion. Love is taking on the well being of another as they are a part of yourself. The ideal thing to to maintain positive or balanced emotions, but there will always be the ups and downs.

As far as the cheating goes, it could be that either she wasn't ready for full commitment, or she feels she's not loved properly, and found what she needed in someone else. It's likely true if she was saying she needs counseling.

My best suggestion is to ask her if she feels loved. If she says no, then ask her what she needs to feel loved, and work from there. You also have the right to present what you need. Just remember, marriage is a cooperation, so don't start fights, be mature and try to work through it for a good outcome.

Answer 10

Nasty.  Love hurts...and hurts...but we all come back for more.  If we didn't care so much, it wouldn't hurt.

Answer 11

Love hurts in your case.

Answer 12

Do Not take her back! My God! She has guts, the thing she is trying to say is that love hurts so you have to put up with her ****! What a BITC*!

Answer 13

Love does hurt.

I would think twice or even more about taking your wife back. You're bound to hit tough times more then once in your marriage. What will stop her from cheating again? Especially if she became engaged to some guy in 2 weeks? She obviously acts on impulse and makes wrong choices. There is another phrase you should think about, once a cheater, always a cheater.

Answer 14

Love hurts.  It could be good and it can be bad.  Just make sure this women isn't taking you for a ride.  She could of got dumped by this guy and running back into your arms.  Get counceling before you go back to her.

Answer 15

I agree with you.  Love hurts a LOT!!!  No matter how much two people love each other, they're always going to hurt one another.  Your wife was selfish to do what she did, but she probably didn't feel like she was.  You can accept her apology, but that doesn't mean that you have to forgive her for what she did to you or feel like you have to include her in your life again.  You could say that she hurt you once and you refuse to let yourself be put in that position again.  

I think people are stupid when they think that things should all go perfectly well in a relationship or shouldn't hurt.  Because it's normal in any relationship to be hurt by someone.  Most people think that if it hurts they should just give up.  Big mistake!  If that's the case then there would be no marriages on this planet at all.  

Answer 16

I don't believe love hurts. What I do believe is when you give some one your trust and they betray it, that's what really hurts. Love is something that should be unconditional. It's the betrayal in my opinion that causes the hurt.  

Answer 17

Even in the best relationships love hurts at some time or another.

Answer 18

Love does hurt.  it becomes a part of your life and heart.  When it's ripped from you, is leaves a whole in your life and an emotional scare that will never go away.

Answer 19

Love hurts because at some point or another your partner's action will make you sad, or mad, and its only because you love them...otherwise it wouldn't hurt so much, but if you are in a good relationship, you shouldn't be feeling hurt all the time.

Answer 20

Love does hurt alot especially if break up or get a divorce with someone. Now the people saying that Love doesn't/shouldn't hurt are wrong. They are indenial about it. There mad at a relationship that they have been in and didn't work so they might be saying Love doesn't hurt-Love doesn't exist-Love is unreal etc. But when they find that true love there answer will change to a positive instead of a negative.

Answer 21

how old are you 7?