Low budget household and trying to conceive?

Question

We are far from rich but wish to have a baby, I am 28 and my Fiance is 24.

If we "wait until we are more financially stable" before we try, we might just never become parents!

Or do you think it is selfish to try for a baby when you know you and your partner will have to make sacrifices to provide for the child?

Answer 1

My sister had a baby 18 months ago and it was amazing how much was passed on to her and how much she was given for the baby. Of course, she's the first sister to have babies so her son is spoilt rotten by the family. You can also get brilliant second hand baby clothes from jumble sales and car boot sales, not to mention the sales. Keep everything for the next one to save you money down the line.

Answer 2

If you have to rely on benefits to bring up a child I think that is selfish but if you are a working couple providing for the baby yourself then no..

Babies aren't as expensive as people make out...they are if you buy everything Top Branded.

Those are the people that end up skint...

Me and my husband aren't well off but we manage great and find we never need to sacrifice anything really...the kids get everything.

Answer 3

its not selfish at all, its true that if you wait until you are financially stable most couples would never have children. making sacrafices is what makes you a parent, everyone copes in the end. there are always ways of getting money along the way and you will cope just fine. everything happens for a reason so if you fall pregnant it just shows it was meant to be and everything will come together along the way. i got pregnant recently and i dont have a job and still live with my parents because of this, the main reason is because i have a disease which effects my fertility and for years it has made me ill so i couldnt work and i was even told i wouldnt have children. me and my boyfriend decided to try for a baby anyway as if it took years it would be better to start straight away, and you can imagine how shocked i was when i fell pregnant in the first month of trying. im 9 weeks now and we are doing fine, i do still live at home but my boyfriend works and earns a good wage and saved up about £4000 so far plus we still have lots of time to save up so we can get a flat and baby stuff. i also hope to get a job after the baby is born and earn my fair share. so everything does work out, a lot of people would see me as selfish for having a baby when i dont have a job, money or own place, but i actually feel its the perfect way we can do it and im really happy for the first time in my life. ignore what other people say or think, do what feels right. good luck.

Answer 4

if everyone waited till they felt financially and emotionally secure to have kids, there would be no children !!!  The right time never comes.  Babies can be expensive , if you wish them to be, but apart from the essentials, nappies, food etc they can also be very cheap.  I got my cot from an e bay store, the same model as one £100 more in motercare, I paid monthly for my pram but would go cheaper next time,  we have a rather large income but I still buy my daughter clothes from charity shops (look like new as not in them long) or bundles from e bay.  If you ask around there will be things people are happy to lend you, moses basket, bath, clothes etc  the best thing you can give a baby are love, security and education  Hope this helps :)

Oh and to save even more money I sell bundles of clothes and toys on e bay she has grown out of ad with what I make I buy her a new bundle of toys or clothes !

Answer 5

I think it is completely UNSELFISH to make sacrifices to provide for your child.  This is a huge part of being a parent and if you are prepared to do this and love each other then you will figure the rest of the other stuff out.   Having babies isnt just for the rich people.  My parents werent rich when they had me and my brother and sister, far from it.  But they still managed to put us all through private school and university.  You sound like you have the right attitude to become parents!!

Answer 6

My husband and I are far from Rich too...we have for kids..No welfare or anything. However we do make sacifices..i dot get to get new clothes alot..we dont vacation that often..we only get 2 weeks per yr of vacation time....But we love it....the kids are our everything.....

If I were you I would go ahead have 1 child and make sure you wait for more. That way you can spoil the child as much as you want.....Its so easy with one kid......

We have 4 kids and my husband is the only income....

Answer 7

Making sacrifices is part of parenthood. Some of the best parents I know are poor. Your financial situation has nothing to do with your parenting ability. If ya'll are ready for a baby and have enough money for clothes, food, and diapers then go ahead and start trying.