Low self confidence, any advice?

Question

I have no self confidence in what i do, i can't rely on myself properly because i believe i'll s***w up. I've just been for the interview and got the job but i still believe i don't deserve it, even though i have it. I'm 16 years old and going to college in september, i'm un-confident in my abilityy to talk to people and to come off well and make friends (that interview just made me realise that i'm very nervous around others becausee i'm worrying what there thinking about me) Even though i dress uniquely and others say i look very fashionable and i have every basic essential and more in my wardrobe i still believe i won't be able to put an outfit together, a normal one, one that i won't be judged by in college.i'm worried that i'm going to have to have a brand new outfit everyday and if i don't, others will notice. I'm takingdepressantss and if you think this is bad, then you should have known me when i was off them. What do you suggest, my mind is just everywhere?

thankyou

Answer 1

Perhaps you are too sensitive - see how Jane deals with it

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dwm25rqZb...

Answer 2

Hi. Believe me when I say that I know exactly how you feel. It might reassure you to know I've been in a situation which seems just as hard as yours, and although it was difficult, I struggled through. I was your age five years ago, and struggled with this until two years ago. I still know the feelings, but they're easily manageable.

There are several things you could do. These include:

- Finding the right doctor. I always found it useful to talk to a doctor who took depression, anxiety and low self-esteem seriously.

- Asking about Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. It worked well for me, and has done for a lot of other people. It might seem like a long shot. I was cynical too, but it has helped me.

- Read 'The Feeling Good Handbook' by David Burns. It makes a lot of bold claims, but I found it quite useful.

- Make sure you eat well and do exercise. Both will give you a little more bounce.

- Don't feel under any pressure to be anybody other than yourself. You're most likely a wonderful person. People will like you if you dress how you genuinely want to dress. The vast majority of people won't judge you if you don't wear a new outfit every day, and if they do, then they're probably not the nicest of people.

- Continue being nice and considerate to people. This will lead you to the people you deserve, and the future you deserve, which for someone who reflects as deeply as you, is probably a bright one.

All the best.

Answer 3

You have to find people that are willing to make friends with you.  If you don't have self confidence do a sport that your good at get some confidence and make friends through the sport

Answer 4

Is ur college called leek college>>>/??   or buxton college?

Answer 5

You poor thing, this is heartbreaking.  I'm so sorry.  I'm sure you are a beautiful person inside & out, if others don't see that....s***w 'em!

Answer 6

Well I would love to help you, but I don't think you would take my advice seriously, or you might even laugh at me and tell me I am silly. So i think I had better not answer this one. All the other members might laugh at me as well if I do, and I don't think I could put up with that.

Answer 7

Think more highly of yourself and make friends with  the same motives as you. Believe in yourself more. Think positive