Ls anyone here a foster parent, or has been in foster care? What do you think the children want?

Question

from their foster parents? Like what expectations they have, how they want to be treated (obviously they want to be treated well!), do they want you to be a real 'parent' figure to them, etc. Any advice is welcome, thanks in advance.

Answer 1

These kids have been yanked out of their homes and placed with people they do not know and cannot trust.  Their life experiences have taught them not to trust most of the adults in their lives. What do they want?  They want their parents.  What can they have?  They can have warm clothes on a cold day, plenty to eat, a safe place to sleep.  Treat them as if they are children that you care about not just a way to get some extra money.  Let them know the rules of your house so that they can learn boundaries.  Most important be consistent in all that you do so that they can learn to trust.  If you are thinking about being a foster parent good for you, if you think you can be a good foster Mom that is even better.

Answer 2

my husband grew up in and out of foster homes, and what I was told the children just want to be treated fairly, make sure that they are fed, have clean clothes, treat them like normal kids and not like they are second or third rate.

Answer 3

I think they need truthfulness above all else.  Naturally they want to be cared for (nice place to sleep, clean clothes, plenty to eat), but they also need someone to talk to.....someone who will be honest with them.  If you have no intention of adopting them, don't let them believe that this is going to happen.  And explain WHY it is not going to happen.  Be a friend to them.

Answer 4

I think they want what they couldn't get at there original home. Love and care. They want to be guided and helped with problems and loved. LOVED! Treat them as if they were your own children that mean more to you than anything on Earth.