MAD, baby names and nosey people!!!??

Question

I got 2 emails from ppl today asking why i wouldnt name my son after his father (Jeffery Scott Orr III) I have hated my boyfriends name from day 1, we have dated for 4 yrs and he did his fair share of things that hurt me, its been awhile but never the less he did it. WHY would i want to name my son after someone 1. im not married to. 2. thats hurt me. 3. i dont like the name. 4. its to confusing to have 4 ppl with the same name in the same family. EVERYONE is looking down on me for this and its really aggravating me!!! he has been telling people that hes mad i wont name my son after him, but from day 1, even before i was pregnant he knew it wasnt an option. ALSO doctor said i cant have anymore kids. I even tried to reason with him and tell him we would use his name in part of our sons name but no, it was all or nothing. Iv tried to pick names out he would like but he wont even consider one unless its HIS name. the letter from a person i didnt even know sent me over the top!!!

Answer 1

bailezra said it all!!!!!!

Answer 2

LOL, you don't have to name your child after your father.

Name them whatever name you want(as long as its not ridiculous like "Cucumber").

Answer 3

It's your baby. you can name him anything you want, just name him what you like and they can either accept it or not. there is no law that says you have to name a child after it's father.

Answer 4

you can always tell him you are going to name him that but when you file out the paper work just change the name that way you don't have any problems until then and after that it will be too late to change his name you don't have to have them until it is time for him to sign the birth certificate so good luck

Answer 5

Ugh.. horrible isn't it?

I got my DH bugging me about naming my child after him. I REALLY never understood this "custom" Why is this so important to the man? You don't see women naming thier children after them do ya!?! lol I HATE his name, he HATES his name.. however thinks he can somehow change the middle name (which is the name that we both hate) and I tell him then it won't be a Jr, he disagrees because he's a moron.. lol I'm hope i'm having a girl for many reasons, but that's one BIG one right there. lol

  I'm assuming the big deal is because he's the 3rd, so they just assumed it would go on forever. Well, it's not. and that pisses them off.

Stand your ground. DO NOT CAVE. Name your child what you want to name him, and if you like, put one of his names in there somewhere. He'll get over it. if he won't consider anything else, you pick out something and go with that. s***w him. lol No really. you'll be the one filling out the birth certificate. ;)

Answer 6

Why do you really care what they think anyway? Its your body.

Answer 7

My son has the same first name as my husband. I like the idea of giving your child a name from someone in the family. But, that's me.

I guess his family can't understand why if it's good enough for them, it's not good enough for you. They are taking it too personally.

If you don't like the name, and don't like the idea of naming him after his father, then don't. But realize they will always give you a hard time for it.

Stand your ground if this is what you want. Maybe you can offer to use a family name as the middle name. If he still says no, then just pick whatever name you want.

Answer 8

Tell them to pi$$ off and mind their own business.  If his parents are among the ones pressuring you, tell them that since their ancestors were such incredible idiots who didn't even know how to spell the name "Jeffrey" correctly, you hardly see any reason to honor them.  That ought to shut them up.

He's not your husband.  You don't even have to give the baby his last name if you don't want to.

Answer 9

just ignore them, your the one carrying the baby so you can name him whatever you want. i hate the name jeff too. [ive known atleast 3 and they were all jerks]. lol.

Answer 10

I will never name a son after his father. my reason is I hate his name. Ignore people That's what I do. Tell them they want to name a child have their own.

Answer 11

ignore them all. name the kid what you like.