MATURE Answers Only Please....?

Question

Hey everyone I have kind of an embarrsing question to ask. I put it in MENS HEALTH bc I want a male only opinion. Yes, I know wrong catagory.

I have been dating a new guy, and I am extremley self concious about my about my area down below. I happened to be cursed with larger then normal labia lips (the inside lips). We have messed around a few times but he really wants to perform oral on me and i cant bring myself to let him just see everything yet. I used to be embaressed just going to ob.gyn till I finally got over it. Its not just the lips its the whole thing, it kind of hangs =( Is it ok to talk to him about it with him and let him know that it makes me very uncomfortable? Or should I just keep my mouth shut? We have been hanging out every single day for the past 3 1/2 weeks, have this incredible connection and have known him for a few yrs now, so its not like hes a total stranger. Is there a good way to put it? Thanks in advance. Please no cruel commetns, there not needed here.

Answer 1

I wouldn't give him a heads up in advance. That way you are drawing unecessary attention to it. Let him give you oral or continue with the heavy petting, etc. In all honesty, he probably won't think anything of it. If you bring it up, he may notice it. Otherwise, chance are...he won't. I wouldnt say anything.

If he does say something (by chance)...say...."you love it baby..." or something like that. Make him WANT you more...

Answer 2

Most guys are not sexual epicures and have limited experience with female anatomy.  The ones who have had a number of partners that they can compare one to another are probably bed-hopping lotharios to be avoided.  The same with women who have had a number of partners and make comparisons based on p***s size rather than personality.

If your special endowment is a turnoff to this guy, the sooner you find out the better.  Not to be crude, but with your legs spread wide apart for him and your v***a fully exposed, the relative size of your labia minora will be much less apparent anyway.  Try to relax and let him make his own judgments.

Answer 3

ok I am not a man, but  I think we all feel uncomfortable about our bottoms. Playboy is not the norm. You could explain, but how many could he have been with.  How do you know he'll know the difference? What if you are the norm.  Use a blanket and do it in the dark.  Go for it if you want to do it and forget about being self conscious.

Answer 4

Some women say size matters or size doesn't matter. It's the same with men. An experienced man realizes there are many variations, and it shouldn't matter. If you've already been fingerdiddleing he should already know and it doesn't bother him. If cunnilingus is what gets you off, go for it. If he has a problem, then it's him, and maybe it wasn't meant to be.  As long as you take care of yourself down under, there should be no reason to feel hung up.  

Answer 5

just tell him the ttruth. if he doesnt like it leave or accept u for who u r

Answer 6

i wouldn't say anythin coz guys honestly don't care

Answer 7

There are a couple of things to consider here. #1 do you enjoy cunnilingus being performed on you? Have you ever had it done and do you particularly enjoy having it done. #2. Obviously he wants to sexually please you. Who knows, he may be really good at it. You can do a couple of things before starting. Tell him beforehand your feelings and concerns about your body. Say nothing and or place your fingers on either side of your labia  and fold them aside when the time is right.

From a woman's point of view you have some extra nerve endings which usually will lead to more pleasure for you! From a man's point of view I would take the time to pleasure a woman any day who freely enjoys cunnilingus.

Answer 8

You are the way you are; you needn't apologise for anything.  If you have this connection, it won't matter.

Relax.  Let things happen.

Most of us have various parts and/or appendages that aren't perfect, so you're hardly alone.

Answer 9

if ul are comfortable to gether talk to him, he will appreciate it :) goodluck

Answer 10

-just tell him what you're concerned about, he'll understand.  i love eating a woman out, i can do it all day long and still want more.  it would be a real pleasure to eat you out, larger lips are such a turn on for me.  let tell him and lay back so that you can enjoy what he wants to do.  i'd love to eat you out, that's the truth

Answer 11

Can we see a picture of these 'large lips' so we have something to form an opinion on? maybe then we'll be able to help you better.

Answer 12

You could get them reduced by having surgery.

I know someone who's had this done and it helped her a lot, really boosted her confidence.

It's a only a minor op and you'd be fully recovered within 4 weeks. =]

Or if you don't want surgery, then just go for it, he should be fine with it, and he might not even notice.

And to be honest, I heard that some guys prefer them being bigger than normal, don't ask me why, they just do lol.

Anyway good luck =]

Answer 13

i watched the perfect v****a on the telly last night..it was an interesting programme. some men said it dosnt matter about hair/her lips size as if they love her they love her bits too. and a couple of men said it matters to them as they like to perfrom oral and like it to look presentable. i bet yours isnt as bad as you think! i think he would respect you anyway and you have a good connection..i dont think he would throw that away. If you feel like you can talk to him about it..go ahead..it might ease your mind as he probably wont think its an issue anyway. the average lip size is about 3mm to 20mm something like that so you can see how it varies.

a girl had an operation on hers because she was teased about it by boys and her sister so it knocked her confidence.

if your not comfortable for him to do it, dont let him to do it, i dont always feel comfortable with my bf doing it, not because i dont like mine, im comfortable with mine just cause im not used to him being down their, as he dosnt do it alot.

the more you two are physically active you will have more confidence around each other. talk to him if you want it can help alot.

good luck

btw the men that said that was older and had seen a variety of vaginas, he might know what is normal,well their isnt a normal one they are vary.

..x..

Answer 14

Don't tell him anything before-hand.  Guys realize that women have minor differences just like we do.  If you don't make a big deal of this, then neither will he.  

Answer 15

If you dont know if how he will react skip oral and go straight for the s*x. I mean it seems less concentrated on if your face isnt in it, at least thats how I look at things