MEN ONLY answer...?

Question

ok my ex and i broke up 2 years ago and after we broke up we remained friends and would sometimes hook up (kiss). i found out that he now has a new girlfriend (he didnt tell me) which ill admit hurts a bit because i still love him...he still calls me every now and then even though hes in a relationship...i just told him to stop calling me and texting me because its the only way that i can move on and get my mind off of him...well its been over a month and my ex decided to email me wishing me a happy valentines day..why do you think he emailed me this when i've told him to stop calling me?? what's his reasoning for this?? also, do you think i should reply to his email?? if yes, what should i say?? should i be cold or nice?

Answer 1

This question sounds familiar, haven't you asked this before? You are his safety net, if your O.K. with that then e-mail him back and be nice, if your not O.K. with it e-mail him back and say this is the last time that you are going to correspond with him because you are not going to be his safety net anymore.

Answer 2

dont answer his email, move on , if he wanted to still be with you he would be, he wont take you serious if you answer

Answer 3

you are just his back up.  Please move on! if YOU had a bf and were still talking to him, he wouldnt take that, he would just stop talking to your a**.  Please, he is not worth anything.  Move on and be happy

Answer 4

You were right to tell him to leave you alone.

Why he sent it is he wants to use you. He wants to keep you on the side, because he knows you still care.

Realize what a user he is.

When with someone else, he was all kissy-poo with you.

That means that, if you ever got together, he'd be kissing every women willing to kiss him back.

What you do is, delete the email, and any other emails he sends.

Get a new email address, and change your texting if you have to.

You were right: You need to realize what a scuz he is and move on. Not all men are scum. Give yourself some time, and you'll be in a position to find a GOOD guy.

You can't just ASK him to not contact you. That gives HIM all the power, which, clearly, he's willing to abuse, and ignore your wishes.

YOU need to take control, and not leave it up to him.

BTW, you asked for men only, which I'm not -- but then, there's no reason to assume ONLY men know what's going on here.

Every time you "ASK" him to PLEASE not contact you, you're saying: YOU have all the power; I'm your helpless slave.