MEN who use NON VERBAL cues to EXPRESS INTEREST?

Question

Men, how would you like a WOMAN to let you know they are not interested in you?

1. As a sexual partner

2. As a friend

What is the best way for us to articulate it without offending you.

Especially if you are the persistent, oblivious type.

I'm talking about men who use non verbal ways to express interest (always coming up and talking, smiling at her, staring, asking for hugs, stammering, etc...) not the men who come out and offer a date, etc...

Answer 1

I am somewhat confused by the non-verbal cues thing. The things you described as non verbal cues to express interest are just part of my personality. I always just walk up and talk to people, smile, offer hugs, ask for hugs, even yell "Group Hug." I have had several girls misinterpret my generally cheery personality as me saying they like them. Especially from younger girls that were sophomores and juniors, I guess they liked the idea that a Senior on the football team was interested in them. However, instead of asking me if I liked them, they'd go around me and ask my other friends or my sister if I was interested in them. Then they would ask me if I was interested in said girl. To which my response is always, "What? Why does she think I like her?" Then I find that they interpret me asking them how their day is, letting them borrow a dollar for lunch, and telling them a joke because they're sad as me expressing interest. I explain that I am not interested and that I am just a friendly guy. However, all the girls that do this, when they find out that I don't actually like them, start acting all sad all of the sudden.

I wish that a girl would just come out and ask, "Are you interested in me?" That way they wouldn't get their hopes up, then get so down when they find out that I'm just being friendly. Especially with younger girls, they're even worse about it. The girls I actually like are either already dating someone or they're lesbians, there's no one I like that is available, however, all the available girls mistake my friendliness as interest. I wish they would just ask me straight out so I could explain that I'm just being friendly.

Answer 2

The best way to deal with a man's nonverbal cues is to give him some of your own. Avoid eye contact with him and turn in the opposite direction. You can also hide behind one of your female friends.

It must be nice to be the one 'rejecting' instead of the one getting rejected.

Answer 3

1. As a sexual partner: Stop biting her butt.

2. As a friend: Start biting her butt.

Answer 4

Use VERBAL cues to EXPRESS NON INTEREST.

You know the best part about NOT using ridiculous hints or subtle signs? They are FAR less likely to be misinterpreted.

If you're unclear about what you don't want, it's your own d**n fault. Be an adult and use unambiguous vocabulary to express yourself properly.

This custodian is really messing with your head, isn't he?

Answer 5

Women are all about "NON-VERBAL" communication.

You make a hint about one thing, to make us think of something else.

BUT---> have you no idea how confusing that is to us?

We dont think that way.

We say a thing directly. We never hint.

So if you hint at us, we arent gonna get your message, or even that trhere was a mesage.

You HAVE TO be direct. State in direct English

- without detail-

right to the point -

in order to get your message across to a man.

Anything else, since we dont understand it anyway, we're gonna' take the opportunity to tell ourselves "she's interested"  "I'm wearin her down"  "I'm getting somewhere with her"(Oh yes we will, we have egos, we need to think we're ok...)

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Forget NON VERBAL CUES.

Only women think that way.

Men dont.

So if you see US as using them, just remember one thing

--->WE dont see ouselves as doing that, youre just interpreting it that way.

So it isnt what were actually doing.

--->speak to us in the language we understand.

--->understand us as thinking that way

You'll do and feel better that way.

Answer 6

If they are persistent, there should be no "cues".  Men don't do cues...especially the oblivious type, unless you are playing pool.  Stick up for yourself a tell this guy what needs to be said.  Quit blaming him for not taking your "non verbal cues"....unless you are flipping him off.

Answer 7

Sometimes just coming out and saying I'm not comfortable with you or I don't like when you do these things is the best way. If he doesn't get it then just say I don't like you. Express your true feelings being blunt and to the point may sound cruel but sometimes its what it takes to get the message across.

Answer 8

Back when I was terribly shy, I couldn't speak to women I found attractive at all.  Instead, I usually hid.  Made me seem real freaky, I know now.  Anyway...

It's different depending on the cue.

Coming up and talking, ther's no polite response except not being there.  Or finding a reason to end the conversation and walk away.

Smiling - use the fishy gaze.

Staring - stare back, but not pleasantly.

Stammering - isn't a cue about anything besides nervousness.

Asking for hugs - is verbal.  If not desired, however, I would say that a proper response would be a knee in the groin.

But really, the best way may just be to say "I know what you're thinking.  It ain't happening."  Gets the message across clear and easy.

And if he still doesn't get it, THEN use the knee.