MIL issues---everyones got them??

Question

Ok so my mother in law has been making rude and snide little comments to me lately. We live with her and they dont have us pay rent (we're saving for a house so we thought family would be an easy way to save) but we do put in as much money as rent would be for bills and such. But we have a hard time with her wanting to abide by the rules we set down. We dont want our son being rocked to sleep because of the bad habit it can create (please no comments about that, its just something we dont want). But she feels the need to make rude little comments about it all the time or yell at us in front of a babysitter and tell us that we need to tell the babysitter no rocking him to sleep. She also has made little comments towards me about how when i was addicted to strawberries during my pregnancy apparantly i wouldnt share them with anyone- even tho i was only eating them out of the fridge- they were there for whoever. I feel like nothing i do is good enough.

overall- how do i handle this? do i let it go because theyre helping us out bigtime by letting us live there? or do i say something? or do i have him say something?

Answer 1

You really can't say anything since they are doing you such a big favor.  If anyone says anything it will have to be your husband (her son) but even then, it will probably cause bigger problems.

Answer 2

Move out!! or stand up to her!!

and rocking a child to sleep does not create bad habits!!

Answer 3

i would move out and get an apt.  you can still save for a house but it will take longer.

we lived with many people before we decided "forget the house, lets just get an apt"  during our apt search we realized that we could get a house after all.  

Answer 4

if i were you i would say something yes true they are helping you guys out but you should have to put up with that ignorance from her especially when it's your child not hers.

Answer 5

Ugh - that is a hard situation.  Unfortuneately, I think I have to say you kind have to let it go and ignore her comments since she is helping you guys out big time by having you live there.  I'd definitely stick to your guns about your rules about your son.... but the comments - try your hardest to let it go and ignore them.  Hopefully you'll be able to move out of there soon, and things will be much better then.

Good luck!

Answer 6

If you don't like living with her, move out.  You said you were paying as much to her for rent as you would pay for another place, so living there isn't saving you any money.  Find a place of your own if the situation is making you unhappy.

Answer 7

To me no house is ever worth dealing with a nagging MIL.  I would say move out before it gets out of control.  Yes it will take longer to save for a house but you will at least have peace of mind.