MMA Sparing a Girl.?

Question

:p I am a Guy,and In my MMA Class I was put together with a 5'9 Girl,and I am 15 and 5'11. She is more expirienced but.. come on,she isnt a l***o looking one,she isnt intimidating,I am scared to Kick her in the head,or If I go to the ground i'll knee here b***s. IDK,its difficult. Please help.

Answer 1

It'd be a disrespect to not fight her with full power.  It's honestly not a great situation for you -- if you lose to her it's, "Dude, you lost to a girl," and if you beat her, it's, "Dude, why'd you beat up a girl?" -- but you don't really have a choice but to give it all you've got.  By entering your class, she expressed her desire to be respected and treated as a martial artist, and taking it easy on her is no way to show respect to her skill or wishes.  Besides, if you go full out, that reduces your peer problem mentioned above.  Win or lose, it was then a fair fight, and there's nothing more respectable than that.  :-)

Answer 2

I am one of the only females in my school, and I feel really frustrated (and disrespected) when the guys won't hit me or spar at an appropriate level. I have been training for a long time and I can hold my own, AND I wouldn't be there if I didn't expect to get hit!  Also, it's not doing the female any favors to go too easy...she deserves the right to test her skills and improve the way that everyone else does.  

That being said, if your opponent (male or female) is significantly smaller and/or less skilled, there is no reason to beat  them to a pulp.  This is just common sense...you should use some control.  If your opponent is similar in size and skill level, go for it!  It sounds like this girl is close to your size and more experienced...show her some respect.  Allow her to train...that's why she's there.  

Answer 3

I'm a girl and in my martial arts style I'm a green belt. I do plenty of sparring and ground fighting, among other things, when my opponents are boys. Sure, you get hurt in sensitive areas sometimes, but you have to deal with that. Just fight normally, and don't worry about her. It'll help you and her. It'll help you in case a woman attacks you and you need to use your skills against her, and it'll help her because you won't be holding back, and neither will an attacker.

Answer 4

that's weird.

but if she's pretty good looking, i don't see what the problem is.  

Answer 5

And it would be easier for you if she looked like Ernest Borgnine.  Newsflash: not every L*****n wears a crewcut or looks like Jenna Jameson, some of them actually look fairly normal.

I realize you're 15 and hormonal, but you're disrespecting her as a person and a martial artist by not treating her as you would another guy.  Put it out of your head when you're training, and if you can't then man up and go to the instructor and say you can't train with her because she's a female and it's too awkward for you.

Answer 6

Dude, you're sparring, you should have headgear on. She'll be fine. You won't hurt her. And if you do, then she doesn't belong there.

Answer 7

Hey I know how you feel. I do BJJ and sometimes im worried about hurting girls or just inappropriate contact. I never intenionally touch them but certain positions thats just te way it is. Im sure since she signed up she knows theres gunna be contact. Just try using less strength and more technique with them. I think after a while you'll feel more comfortable with sparring but i understand. Just keep training and try not to think about that. I don't know if your afraid of losing to a girl but that doesn't matter either. I would just spar light and work on proper technique.

Answer 8

You fight.

Answer 9

well just fight her like you would any other guy. if she is there there is a chance either she wants to learn to defend herself against guys or she wants to go to the UFC like a lot of kids do now so she would want to to go hard on her because its better for her training.

think of it this way if all the guys go easy on her in class and then she ends up getting raped because she isnt used to people actually useing their full strength then its partially your fault for not helping her train.

Answer 10

first off the immature guy is the one who is scared to help a girl or get helped by a girl. ask her how hard you should go against her. if she says take it a little easier take it a little easier if she says go like you would against any one else do it. if she is better you can learn from her if you are better she can learn form you. if you act like you are neither of you can learn form each other