MOH/wedding shower Help!?!?!?

Question

my MOH is keeping very involved in the planning of the shower, and instead of sending out invitations, she created a facebook event and invited people that way. she made me and admin for the group and told me to invite whoever she missed that i would like there, so i invited about 20 people who i truly want there (not just acquaintances). this morning, i got a message from her saying that i should have told her i was inviting that many people and that she has to pay for this. i tried to explain that most probably wont show up (she left it to the last minute and the shower is in a week) but she is still upset with me. she also didn't want to invite one of my good friends because she doesn't like her. how do i get her to see that this is my wedding and my shower without sounding bridezilla?

Answer 1

well  if i was you id offer to pick up the rest she should have told you  that beyond who she invied she only has room for  5 or 6 other people

Answer 2

She shouldn't have told you to invite more people if she didn't mean it.  You aren't being a bridezilla, it sound like she is being an inconsiderate bridesmaid.  She should invite the people that you are close to for your shower.  She really should have discussed this with you before she started.  Just apologize for the confusion but let her know that it is your shower and you wouldn't feel right about not inviting these people.

Answer 3

Just point out that she did state to "invite whoever she missed that you would like there".  She did not state "invite only 5 more people".