MOM AND DADS Please...is this normal in 5 year old friends?

Question

My daughter is 5 and is very smart and sweet, of course she is hyper and has her days. She has been playing with this little girl who is probably the same age, that looks like an angel, for the past 3 weeks. On the second week, I got around to listen to what their little arguments were about. Looks obviously are deceiving. The little girl is kind of bossy and controlling, she has a brother and maybe a sister. Here is some of the things so you get a good idea: My daughter would get bored of swinging after an hour and try to get her to play several different other things, but the little girl refused everything. My daughter would finally give up and tell her she's going to go color. The little girl would throw a fit and start fake crying. Sometimes when my daughter gets bored playing something so long, she usually tries to do something else and every time, this kid just gets so mad and fake cries.

My daughter had to go to the bathroom, and her friend ran in there and locked the door,

Answer 1

Typical for a spoiled child.  It isn't unusual or anything.  Not a good sign she is being parented well, but not unusual

Answer 2

I have four daughters, theres always gonna be a girl who is bossy, and picky and sometimes even just plain mean to your child. I sat my oldest daughter down (when she was 8) and explained to her friend that she could no longer come to our home and treat her like that.  And if she did she have to go home. I said that she cant throw a fit and cry when your here.

Answer 3

Ok I know what your talking about...but you know different kid different personality. My sister has 3 boys an 8 , 6, and 4. The 8 year old is ok pretty much a smart boy didn't have a hard time at all while he was a baby, when you tell him something and he's not too happy with it, he'll probably pout or start tearing up. The 6 year old would give you the meanist face and cross his arm stomp his feet and throw a tantrum which I pretty much discipline him for on several occasion, with age he's has been trying to control his temper because he know's action brings reasction. But the little 4 year old girl let me tell you, he is so bad my sister once stated that she felt like she was taking care of a step child. He bosses the older ones around with his petit body frame probably only weight about 30 lbs. If you say No all h**l breaks loose, he drinks juice like an elephant every 15-20 minutes. Hold his urine until it's too late to go to the rest room he pee's like every 5 minutes. And fake cries very Dramatically ( you know when he screams more than he actually cries and coughs because his mouth has been open to long so his throat starts to dry out) lol Thats what I call begging for attention (at this point I've pretty much ignored him) . He thinks the world evolves around him and would even stay up till 2 am, but things have changed a little bit with the sleeping habit after I popped him on the back of the hand for not wanted to sleep. He sleeps every night at the same time with the other boys. But as far as having to deal with someone else's kids you have to make an excuse everytime she comes over like your daughter is sleeping, or you guys are having dinner, or she's bathing to go to bed. I have more patients with kids because I know how to tune them out. If she can't follow direction in your house she shouldn't be there. Think about it, your stressing your self for a kid that doesn't even belong to you. At the end kids will be kids, I woner where her parents are when she's knocking at your door.

Answer 4

My son is almost 10 and I have noticed that I really haven't approved of any of his friends he has ever had for some reason or another. I have come to realize that it is me. I don't think any child can be up to the standard that you think your child is. If your daughter has fun with her and doesn't complain then I would just let them be, they will work out any problems they have. Every now and then you may need to intervene, but your daughter is building a very important and valuable social skill in learning how to deal with all sorts of different personalities.

Answer 5

Yes, she is just different.  But has she had much interaction with other kids, like in day care, or preshcool yet. That's when the social skills come together, learning to play, share, organized activities and social skills all improve. So talk with her parents to find out a little about her and keep it light. As you already know don't let them play unattended, just in case. My kids are grown, but my best friend has a 3 yr old. She is learning to socialize a little better, she used to slap the neighbor girl, and then apologize. She was always corrected  and now she is in day care getting along great.

Answer 6

Stop letting her play with her.  I would.  There are some kids that just can't get along.  It is natural, but just tell her parents what she does and that you think they should take a break from each other.  If the parents are understanding it shouldn't hurt your friendship with them.  My good friend has a daughter that my youngest can't get along with for more than five minutes without arguing or fighting over something.  We understand this so they don't have play dates. LOL.  But yea, get them to take a break.  Don't make your daughter play with someone she doesn't like.  Friends should be friends and not whinning babies all the time.  Take care, hope this helps.  God Bless.

Answer 7

your poor little girl that is not good behavior at all if you talk to the mom she will get upset  just look for a new freind for your little girl

Answer 8

has the girls mother seen her repeadadly lock her out of the bathroom? if not, then next time it happens video tape it? hope everything works out! your daughter seems very nice!

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Answer 10

Explain to the girl's parents that she's not treating your daughter well. I know htis may seem a little extreme because she's 5, but it might help. Or you could try telling the little girl to be a bit more polite and nicer. Some children go through this phase, but most of the time they get over it and become normal human beings. :]

Answer 11

Yes, in certain cases this is normal. Children often feel like they aren't getting enough attention from their parents. And it causes them to be rude to others. Maybe giving the mother a taste of her own medicine may not have been the best thing to do since she is probably used t othis kind of behavior from her children. Also, the child may feel that havig gives her even less attention. Be VERY firm next time you mention this to the mother and if she laughs you off take your child and leave and don't come back for a while and see how they both behave.

Answer 12

spoiled child!!!

telll her mom and the child that if they dont stop being such s****. pathetic selfcentered annoying brats (you can refrase i have a very colorful vocublary!) then they cant hang out with your kid no reason your chid should have to suffer let her make friends with someone who will be a true friend

Answer 13

You need to kindly intervene when you here this going on. Let the little girl know that behavior like that is not excepted at your house. If she still does it, make her go home.

Answer 14

yeah, it is semi-normal. it seems as though the other girl is just a spoiled brat, and getting the attention from you/your daughter that she may not be getting at home.

The best thing to do is just talk to your daughter and teach her how to handle that situation when it arrises. She is a bit fortunate that she will be learning a good life lesson at an early age. How to deal with opposition, selfishness, and bratty people with avoiding conflict and not taking it personally.