MOM VS MY BOYFRIEND!!! NOT COOL!! HELP!

Question

hey! ok this is the situation, my mom and my bf dont get along very much bec he wanted me to move to NY w/him bec he has a great job & apartment, his 19 & i'm 18. we are engaged to put it that way, we wanted to move together but my mom disagreed bec she said i was 2 young and thta she didnt approved bec she didnt know him back then, but they met each other & things arent that bad, so, just 2 make my mom happy im gonna stay in my hometown Puerto Rico and study 1 semester here until Dec, then in Dec i'll be moving w/ my bf 2 NY, meen while my bf is gonna be traveling from NY to PR to c me 2 weekends a month!. But before i move we're getting married first. we wanna settle down cuz i cant have a LDR, i'm gonna keep studying and hopefully make it 2 the end! but truth is that i'm affraid when i leave to hurt my mom, i dont wanna c her sad, but i think that by the end of this yr she has to let me go and let me live my life. its not that im gonna cut up communication w/ her or anything! so what u guys think, is it ok 4 me 2 go by Dec and be happy or stay 4 yrs more until i finish my bachelors Degree!? feel free 2 drop ur opinions! thanx

Answer 1

You can't let random people make up your mind for personal things like this. Follow your heart. On one hand you have your mom that will stick with you through thick and thin. And then you have your bf that you never know. So I would say finish your bachelors degree. Edjucation is the key to the future. But thats just me. Like I said follow your heart.

Answer 2

you're pretty young to be making such a big commitment. i think you should get your education first so you have something to fall back on incase things dont work out between you guys.

Answer 3

Here's my honest opinion...

You are a little young to be wanting to settle down already.  You're only 18.  You're mom is in the right a little bit only if she is paying for your schooling and your housing.  If you live on your own then she really has no say.  You are considered an adult.  If you really love the guy then I say go for it.  

Answer 4

Two things:

You will have many boyfriends in your life but only one mother, (just to put your relationships into perspective) Your mom only wants the best for you while boyfriends can be a little more self-serving.

Secondly, finish school no matter what. Once you stop going to school and get on with your life, it is VERY difficult to go back and finish.

Answer 5

i think that your to young to move to NY so you should not. Also i would want to be with my mom because theres a bigger chance that later on in life you wont be able to spend as much time with your mom

Answer 6

Well, i have an idea 2 ur problem. once u guys get married it would be a good idea 2 visit on holidays, family reunions, u get the idea... it would be really cool if u did that every year so u dont cut up communication with her. And call her everyday or what ever u wanna do. Well thats my answer. Hope it helps ur little Mom vs. Boyfriend thingamajig and DEFINITLEY finish school. because once u quit school and go to NY it costs money 2 get into school and u dont wanna do that again, do u? Well thats another tip and i think thats it... Yup thats my answer . Bye! :)

Answer 7

Tell your mom that you love her but that she has to let you go and you will always be just a phone call away. (I wish that my mom and i still talked. so good luck with your decision.)

Answer 8

i think that you should do whatever you want. just tell your mom that you'd have to move out someday, and its just happening sooner than she hoped. if that doesnt work then stay with her a little longer and spend time with her, but i wouldn't move in with a boyfriend. i mean i know your're engaged and stuff but if you guys get into a fight, you're gonna run back to your mom...