MUMS AND DADS, Is there anything you would change???

Question

If you could turn back the clock and do life differently what would you change, in regards to: what age you had your first child, what education level you had, what career you chose, if you were renting or had brought a house at the time of having a baby, if you had money saved for a baby, and if you were married when you concieved.

Is there anything you would do differently that would have made your life easier now?

Stories would be good.

Answer 1

the only thing i would change is the age that i had my child, i was 19 and wish i had got myself settled into a career properly so that i could give my child a better life, in the way that if i had had a career then i would prob of bought a house and she would have a garden to play in  

Answer 2

I had my daughter at 21, I had been accepted to uni but naively thought I'd still go and would be fine to put my daughter into childcare when she was a year old.  I found that I wanted to stay home with her and didn't want strangers to look after her, so I wish I'd got my degree first.  We weren't married when we conceived, but we are now.  We nearly split when I was 2 months pregnant and sometimes i think it would've been better if we had.  But at the end of the day, my daughter is healthy and happy and that's the most important thing.

Answer 3

I would have bought a house sooner if I knew how much the prices were going to increase. I also wish that we had saved some money for when our son was born.

Answer 4

1. i would deffinately have waited for a few more years at least until i started having children, i was 16 when i had my first daughter and im 19 now with three daughters.

2. after having the first i dropped out of school and i would deffinately change that and finish school if i could.

3. well i chose the right career for me, i bartend at the local pub two nights a week and i am a licensed tattooist, i live in a small twon so decent jobs are scarce. i dont know if you know the snowy mountains in australia, well i live in berridale and the population is a whole 800 ppl.

4. well my boyfriend (now fiance) had a house of his own and i got a job and we both pay equal amount for the house now. Which is nice because i always wanted my kids to grow up in the same area as i did and so did he.

5. i was not married when i concieved either 3, but that is not an important thing to me really, the important thing is that we both love our daughters VERY much and as i stated in q1 i think, im engaged now!

6. overall i would change a lot of things if i could but then at the same time i wouldnt change anything because i love my life exactly how it is and my children mean the absolute world to me and i would do anything for them.

PS: my parents died 2 years ago in a car crash and i have custody of my two younger sisters aged 14 and 7. so our house is very full and we are also expecting our firth daughter in december, Kristina Jade.

:)

cheers

Answer 5

I would try harder to get my youngest to go onto University, she is 35 now and regrets she didn't. This makes me feel guilty for not insisting, mind you as she is  a red head I think I would have lost no matter how hard I tried.

Answer 6

My advice would be to NEVER have an odd number of children.  If you have one? Have another!  If you have three?  Have a fourth!  Oh, and never have a single child, they usually don't turn out quite so level headed.

Oh and have them as close together as you possibly can.  They will grow up as friends and always have someone else to play with.

Answer 7

i still rent ,am a student,hold high enough education levels[am brighter than i appear lol],so i guess not much to change ...at least now i am happy and content in life ....just me and my two kids but we're happy and healthy no complaints :)  

Answer 8

Right Emmy.Lou, Let me just put my teeth in, Ah, that's better. No 1 I defiantly wouldn't get married or go into a steady live together relationship until I was at least 30/35. No children, No anything. I would buy myself a flat without ant help from anyone and I would lead the life of a bachelor girl. When I did meet a feller who took my fancy I wouldn't move in with him until we were married. And he would have to have at least the same as me if not more. I would also have him sign a prenuptial agreement.

Answer 9

There is NOTHING that i would change.

when i found out i was pregnant with my 1st child, i was addicted to drugs.( I was 20 years old).

My ex ( the father of my children) was told he couldn't have children, so we never bothered to use contraception.

I remember the day before i found out i was pregnant, i was carrying 100+ Ecstasy tablets in bra, around town!

As soon as i took that test, i pit out my spliff, and have never looked back. i gave up drugs, alcohol, nicotine and caffeine.

I haven't touched drugs since, and i HONESTLY think that if it wasn't for my son, i would have ended up dead or in prison.

My ex couldn't give up the weed, but we stayed together for a further 3 years (he gave up ALL drugs, but not weed). In the end, i realised that i didn't want my child being brought up around weed, so kicked him out. When we had been spilt up for 2 months, i found out i was 2 months pregnant with his baby.

Although we have never been together since, we both feel like our children saved our lives!

So, no i wasn't prepared financially, emotionally for a baby, but i DON'T regret it for a second.

I am now a single mum, with our children, have gone back to college, and work full time as well as study part time and i love it!

My ex has the children every other weekend, and we get on really well.

Its all worked out really well!

Answer 10

No. Our 1st child came along at a time when we were completely unprepared for family life but the adventure of getting sorted has been great for all of us. We were living in a tiny rented flat in London when I got unexpectedly pregnant....but we were both in a rut with jobs and social life anyway...both in our early 30's so not too young...but it was the kick start we needed....we moved to North Wales and got a house...I changed careers and have had a lot more success as I now have a real reason to succeed. There's never a right time to have a baby as the doctor told me when I turned up in tears having just tested positive...he told me that people who have huge houses and high paying jobs panic just as much as those who don't...they come when they come....and you either embrace it or not.

Answer 11

A couple of things i would have changed. I wish i had set up bank accounts for each of my kids when they were born. Even a little bit each week would be helping them now. Plus, i wish i had have been into alternative health from the very beginning.