MUSLIMS: why can't have boyfriends or girlfriends?

Question

I am muslim girl and my mom told me muslims people can't date, we just get married. Well i would like to start dating I'm 15, When went to morocco last year, everyone was dating and morocco is a muslim country.

but why does moroccan people date if it haram?

Answer 1

you are right ,i am a born and raised moroccan,and yes in morocco dating is not a big deal,but we do it by secret of our dads,but not usually the moms,for the simple reason fathers and big brothers are very stricked and preserved of the sisters and daughters,

i am a moroccan,my dad never caught me dating,but i was always very scared of him,i would hied ...but my mom always knew i always told her about who i date because we were kind of close.as a moroccan and i know as a muslim.we muslim the most of us like 80% are not appling islam properly as we are more close to occidentals (europeens and americans) than meadl easterns,in morocco everything is allowed,dating drinkin,even the styl of closthes we wear is not muslim,is like any country in eaurope.

so don t compeare morocco to other muslim coutrys,because we are diferent and we lean to the easterns

that is the answear

Answer 2

Sweetie what does the term Muslim actually mean....? A person who submits to Allah and practices the religion of Islam. In Islam relationships before marriage are forbidden:

In Islam, there is no such thing as a girlfriend-boyfriend relationship. You are either married or you are not. There are good and bad people in the religon of Islam, some follow their desires and some follow what Allah (swt) has set out.pre-marital relationships are strictly prohibited in Islam. Whether you're holding hands, kissing, getting it on, it all comes under 'fornication' So there's no justifying any of it!

PLEASE do not date it is Haram

Answer 3

well dear....i would like to say something 'bout ur rudeness to one of my answers.....this is in OUR Islam that v cannot even look at a girl who does not come into our immediate family, for e.g. 2nd cousins.... when v r not allowed to look at a woman then how do u think that v can touch one.....n plus that girl never said anything 'bout leaving the guy or that an incident like this would never happen again....Secondly, ur dating issue.....if u love someone n he/she does too then it has no harm in doing so but u cannot touch the person as it is haram.....there r alot of muslim countries where dating happens n obscene stuff related to it as well but that does not mean that Islam teaches that!!!!These r all brotherly advices do not misunderstand me as a rude person.....I am telling u the things which r in Islam n not the Islam of people who just call themselves muslims

Fear Allah n u r still young so it'd b better if select the right path instead of the wrong one n then paying for it for ur entire life n in the Hereafter as well

Answer 4

I'm not a Muslim, but I feel strongly that you really should date before you get married.  Having a happy marriage is not easy, and you don't want to be married to the wrong type of person.  I was married for many years, and I felt that I made a judgment error in my initial choice.  Looking back, I would estimate that I could have had a happy, successful marriage with no more than 2% of the women my age who were out there. (probably more like 0.5%)  I will be more careful next time.

Moroccan people date because in every religion there are many different sects, and many different accepted codes of what the people practice.

And for SURE, find out first if anyone in your family or acquaintances is of the mindset that they may kill you for it.  How horrible is that??  Imagine your family & friends at the funeral and they say, "Well, she had coffee two times with this guy .... "

Answer 5

i was about to ask the same Q and i don't think it haraam maybe  

Answer 6

Be careful, Muslims practice honor killing. If your parents are very religious and believe in the Prophet, then they may even kill you to keep the faith.

Answer 7

ven it cums 2 luv thrs no religion caste color etc. so if u luv sum1 go ahead

Answer 8

If muslims dont follow their religion then The teaching of islam wont change . The teachings or islam wont change ever.

Dont look at people. Look at religion.

Answer 9

yeah im 15 i date some but i don't really like the traits of most american girls...yeah my dad doesn't really care, but my mom does sort of....she doesn't care if i date, she just doesn't want the girl coming to our house...idk maybe its cuz im a guy....or i usually date white girls...idk

Answer 10

Shall I explain a reason why dating is haram?

Because one of the girls who have answered this became pregnant. And proceeded to say s*x is natural when she is fretting over what her parents might think.

WHY DO YOU DO IT IF ALLAH AND YOUR PARENTS WILL NOT APPROVE?

Astagfurillah, the youth of our generation are becoming more and more loose.

You all try to assimilate with Western Culture because everyone at your school does it and this and that.

I wear the Hijab proudly and I'm waiting until to get MARRIED, I mean if you're looking for a potential spouse then you can go on a DATE but it cannot include kissing or hugging or touching in anyway.

Do you need to kiss someone to find out if they are good at heart?

Stop being muslim then, if you can't follow the rules, STAY OUT OF THE MASJID

I'm sure your parents won't mind a bit.

May Allah (swt) show you the true path

Amin

Answer 11

i think itz becuase the 2 people dating can have a mistake by having a child and having s*x is haram out of wedlock as well as having a child.

And you want a happy family for a kid..not a single parent like most people are here today. You have to love yourself. The right one would come to marry you...this is why i dont date..many fine woo boiz asked but i say no..why...cuz itz Haram...even my friends say im stupid for saying no..but atleast Allah isnt calling me stupid for saying no..and thats really what matters.

Answer 12

dating is HARAM.

dating leads to other things, then before

you know it your pregnant and having a

serious problem

Answer 13

OMOGOSH MOroccoan GIrls are GOrgeous OMGOSH my ex boyfriend was Morocoan.. OMGOSH i'm still like melting just thinking about him.. GOSH.. SERIOUSLY the most gorgeous people are Morocoan.. Idk if you are Morocoan.. you might be cause you went there but yeah.

Just date if you think you are ready, obviously your parents aren't going to tell you to go out and start dating but they know that you will. So just be smart.