MY 2 YR OLD SON'S DAD HAS A NEW GIRLFRIEND..?

Question

FUNNY THING IS THEY MET AND A WEEK LATER THEY GOT INTO A "RELATIONSHIP" N NOW THEY'VE BEEN 2GETHER FOR 1 WEEK N BOTH SEEM 2 BE REALLY SPRUNG ON EACHOTHER...IS IT WRONG OF ME 2 TELL HIM NOT 2 BRING MY SON AROUND HER?

Answer 1

I am afraid I do not understand why you would not want another women around your child. Is she a bad person? Has she ever hurt you or your child in any way? I am confused here.

I think that you really need to get used to the idea that your son's father is probably going to have another women in his life.....possibly even a wife and other children someday. It would be in your best interest to try to rise above any insecurities you may have and get along with them for the sake of your son. Otherwise you will be in for a really hard life, loaded with childish drama, and that just isn't fun for anyone. It can also damage your son and I know you do not want that.

Answer 2

As much as I would like to be able to tell you that you can stop him, you can't. If he has partial custody or visitation, you can't make him do anything or not do anything, really. However, I think that your son should know and you should explain to him in an age-appropriate way, that he will only ever have one mommy, and that he should not be affectionate with this woman until he has known her for a long time. You could also have a talk with your ex and ask him to not bring her around your son until he is sure that their relationship is going somewhere because it's not right to introduce EVERYBODY as mommy or daddy's new "friend."

However, thanks for asking this question, I'm going through the same thing, and I want to read all the answers to see what other people think!

Answer 3

I don't think it's wrong to tell the ex to keep his girlfriend away for now. I f he thinks it's a serious relationship he shouldn't mind. let him know that you don't want your son exposed to every girlfriend he plans on having and if she's still around in a couple months then maybe.

        p.s The same would have to apply to you to though you can't parade boyfriends past him either.kids that age may not know what your doing but they may form an attachment.

Answer 4

Well it depends why you don't want her around him. If something about her just irks you then use your motherly nature and do what you have to for your sons safety, but make sure this isn't a jealously thing or something. Ask your sons father to introduce her as a friend and not to get to intimate around him. Also try telling him you would feel better if she wasn't alone with your son until you know more about her. Just to make sure that she's supervised because she's basically a stranger to you and your son.

Hope I helped :)

Answer 5

Well , you can tell him, but he might do it anyway.  Only way you can stop that is to pay a lawyer and take him to court.  Lots of time , lots of money.  

As long as your son isn't spending the night there with him and her.  But he should just be spending quality time with his son only, but you know men, he wants to show off his son I am sure.  

Answer 6

Yea, I have the same problem with my ex-wife bringing her boyfriend around my kids. Would not be so bad, but he has a rap sheet with many drug offenses and wreckless driving offenses to add. She doesn't see the kids any way since I took her back to court. But thats her choice.