MY 5 YEAR OLD TRIES ON MY UNDERWEAR ANY CHANCE HE GETS, IS THIS NORMAL OR SHOULD I BE WORRIED, BECAUSE I AM

Question

HE WILL BE 6 THIS MONTH AND HE TRIES THEM ON WHEN HE GOES TO THE BATHROOM AND DOES IT SECRETLY IN THE MORNING WHEN I AM SLEEPING. WHEN I CATCH HIM HE IS EMBARASSED AND I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO. DOES ANYONE KNOW WHERE I SHOULD START. BECAUSE I DONT WANT HIM TO GROW UP AND BE g*y.

Answer 1

I would probably freak out too, but I would not bring any attention to it because if you say things like these are not for boys they are for girls then it might put something in his head. I think maybe telling him once is ok but to continue might be confusing. He is very young so maybe he is just playing right now. as parents we freak out for every little thing. When My son was younger, he will be 11 on friday I use to think so much and worry so much about the silliest things. I have realized through the years that it will be alright. We have to love them teach them right and wrong and trust that they will make the right decisions. God bless and good luck.

Answer 2

hes a kid leave him be

Answer 3

Lol no, this is normal.

Tell him that your underwear is not for him.

Take him to Wal-Mart or something and have him pick out some male underwear that he finds interesting.

(I've taken Parenting and Child Development :-D)

Answer 4

What's wrong with him being g*y?

He's just curious anyway ....

Answer 5

yeah thats normal

Answer 6

Kids want to do what you do and by you taking them away he wants to know why. Just explain to him the reason why. Im sure this wont be the only thing silly he hids. It is completly normal and wont affect anything later on in life with him no matter what these rude people say. Good Luck

Answer 7

He is probably just curious. Let him be a kid.  

Answer 8

1 both of my brothers are not g*y and when we where little 3-8 we all dressed up in my moms panties and cute nighties, they were silky and pretty, guys underwear is not most of the time...

So most likely he is just being normal and playing dress up.

Second, he is to you to worry about if he is g*y or not, he is a kid and playing.

Third, people are born g*y, it is who they are. Do you love your son? Is he the most amazing person? sure he is, he is the most important person in your world, or one of, if you have more then one child. Let he be who he will be, he will always be your son. It is not fair to him or to you to worry about such things and let it get in the way or your relationship with him. He will only be your little man once. They grow up too darn fast.

My advise to you is love your son cherish the wonderful unique person he is and nurture his mind and spirit.

Answer 9

There is a stage that children have when they want to be exactly like their mom's and they feal territorial about them.  I would take him to a store and let him pick out batman or spiderman or whichever other boy's briefs (they fit tightly, so he is ore likely to think he is more like yours).  Relax, he's only 5.

Answer 10

he's just doing what he sees you do. is his dad around? if not that could be why he's mimicking you. i've heard of boys at this age wearing girls clothes and not being g*y. it's just curiosity in my opinion. i say take him shopping and buy him some really cool boys underwear and not make a big deal out of it. then he'll feel ashamed and embarrassed. if you ignore it, he may grow out of it without being traumatized.  

Answer 11

Don't make a big deal out of it. Kids at this age don't know if they are g*y or not. My son LOVES playing with his trucks, cars, legos, etc, but he also plays with dolls. He jsut turned 4 yesterday. It is normal for boys up to around age 7-8 to play with "girl" toys. Even if he does turn out to be g*y you need to support him. He is your child and you should love him no matter what!

Answer 12

Buy him some Disney princesses underwear. Just because he likes your underwear doesn't mean anything. Maybe he will grow up to be an underwear model.

Answer 13

He is just being a child. There is nothing wrong with being g*y. Wouldn't you still love him the same?  Let a child be a child. If he were 15 yrs old, then you should have reason to worry!

Answer 14

wooooooow.

let your son be whatever the h**l hes going to be.

theres nothing wrong with g*y people. and really, it shouldnt be that hard to keep underwear out of reach of a 5 year old...

Answer 15

Ok. Remember he is a child. He might just know that he shouldn't be playing with your things , but he might just be playing Dress up.

He's young and curious about different things. Since his Undies look different he may of never seen your and is just curious. I wouldn't be very worried unless he keeps it up for another year. If he does then I suggest you ask a Therapist , Or maybe ask a friend.

Answer 16

hes young, so i think its fine for now. just talk with him and say thats its ok for how he feels, that he shouldnt be embarressed. see if he would rather try on men's underwear instead and praise him when he tries those on telling him what a big boy hes going to be someday

Answer 17

hes 5 and curious. what do u expect?

Answer 18

Dont Freak OUt, Boy or Girl they wanna do and be just like their Mommy.  So him seeing you wear your panties makes him want to dress up like his "idol"  he wont turn out g*y, just let him be who he is

Answer 19

LOL...I wouldn't worry too much.  But, I would bring him in and let him know why he shouldn''t do this.  Is his father around?  Or another male figure?  Have them tell him how inappropriate this is and let him know that he is not repsecting your privacy.  "Call him out" as some may say.  

Answer 20

Doesn't make a difference if he is g*y or not you should still love your child unconditionally.  But anyways, it is just curiosity and I know plenty of males that will put on their wives/girlfriends underware and bras just to be funny or just out of curiosity and they aren't g*y.  My nephew was 4 years old when we found him wearing my sisters bra, he is very straight but he still will wear his girlfriends stuff (he is 20 years old now) just for the fun of it.  

Answer 21

What if he is?? Don't be against it or he will grow up with issues. He is your son. Love him for who he is no matter what. If it is because of what other people might think and you will be emmbarrased get over it. What is more important, other people or your sons life. And if it is for religion come on. People are more leinient about that these days and if god loves everyone why wouldn't he love his son just because he is different than others. It makes him special. If it is beacuse of his own personal isuues that he may face in society you are a good person. Give him lots of love no matter how he ends up and he will be better off than if you don't. DON'T TRY TO CHANGE HIM!!!!! It WON'T WORK!!! It will just hurt him and cause him to hate  you.

Answer 22

this is not a question of what you want  him to be. if he's g*y, and only if, there's nothing that you can do about it, except accept him and love him for what he is - your son.

now, some said that he's experimenting.  i believe that this can be true...kids that age do start to experiment with these things. my son, who is 5, often "accidentally" brushes my b*****s, and then smiles a cheeky smile. he's really intrigued by them! lol!

however, sometimes a mother feels these things. if you have a gut feeling, just keep a closer eye on him. observe him during play. does he choose to play with boys mostly or girls? i'm a teacher, and i always observe that those boys who are somewhat "feminine" always play with the girls, never with the boys. good luck and whatever happens, remember, that no one will ever love your son like you - so make that love extra-extra big!

Answer 23

He is just curious, it doesnt mean he is going to be g*y.. and even if he is, you cant do anything other than accept it, he is your son..  But anyhow its normal, my 5 year old boy does some pretty weird stuff that makes me drop my jaw...Catch him on video and tease him when he gets older hahaa jk.  Its fine though, kids will be kids.. especially boys!

Answer 24

I think that you should tell him that he is not supposed to wear mommy's underwear, he is supposed to wear men's underwear.  I think that you should take him out and show him what underwear to wear and buy him some.  Even if you a man is g*y I still don't think that they would be comfy in women's underwear.  Also make sure that he has a strong male role model in his life.  It could be an uncle, grandfather, cousin or friend but you should make sure that he has that connection because with a woman raising a boy that can be all the difference because he may just need someone to look up to but if all he has is a woman then that is what he is going to lean toward.  I have the same problem with my stepbrother, although his dad was in the home he was hardly ever there and he was raised by his mom and sister and tends to like more feminine things as far as tv shows and everything else.  This starts young so I think you may still have a chance.  I don't know if your son's dad is in his life or in the home but that can make all of the difference when it comes to raising a straight man and a g*y man but either way, love your son regardless, it may be hard but you love him anyway so just continue.

Answer 25

Whats so wrong with growing up g*y? You are very closed minded...