MY 5 yr old son has an attitude.?

Question

For a couple of months now ,he has been telling me that noone likes him at school and they pick on him. So I called and talked to the principal and told her what he said.She took care of it by telling his teacher so they could keep a closer eye on him and using a little child psycology to get the other children to play with him.He has friends that he plays with at school, but then he doesn't understand why they tell him he is mean and they don't like him at times.When I walked him up to the school today, another boy was walking beside us and he noticed that they have the same shoes on.He said to my son with a smile on his face." Look we have the same shoes." And my son said." I don't care." He said it real snotty too.Thats when I realized that he is the one that is being mean to the other children when they are trying to befriend him.His teacher told me that he is well behaved and is nice to the other children.How can I get him to have better communicational skills, he is an only child

Answer 1

Cute! Do not worry about this that much!  I read this and immediatly thought of my son!  My son has a very different personality.  He has a hard time getting along with other kids.  He also says that kids do not like him or want to play with him.  Its because my son is so outspoken and is not afraid to voice what he is thinking.  His father is so the same!  I have to work with him to at least be polite to other kids.   He is so independent and really different from other kids.  Maybe you just have one of those kids that like to be their very own person and highly independent!  There is nothing you can do to change their personality just help remind him to be polite!  Your kid sounds very cute!

Answer 2

When you see this behavior ask him if he would like it if someones says that to him . When you sit down and talk to him give him examples of ways he should not act or things he should not say . Make him understand why kids say he is mean .

Answer 3

If his teacher is telling you that he is well behaved, he may just know when he can get away with it. Your son is smarter than I think you realize & when the teacher is not around, this is when he is mean to the other kids. If you talking to him does not work, you may need to talk to the school counselor. He/She may be able to talk to the class together: explain on how to treat others, ask if & why anyone was mean to them and how etc..

I know the school my children are at(once a week), they go to the counselor on a "informational class". they talk about age-related issues & this is a big one at your son's age.

Answer 4

you just have to talk to him .. and tell him to be nice to others as thay will be nice to him. as well. all the best to you and your son.. he is only 5

Answer 5

Children who have been bullied often reflect the actions of the person bullying.  By picking on, or shutting out other kiddos they don't feel so hurt or alone.  I would suggest you keep your child involved in play dates and do a lot of model play.  He is still little, he will realize not all kids are mean and find he really enjoys playing.   A bully is a BIG deal and can make complete changes in your child's mood and social behavior.  Way to get on top of the bullying by calling your school, but make sure you are teaching him how to deal with a bully himself.  Its ok to tell the teacher if your feelings are being hurt at school and its not tattling.. you have the right to protect him and he has the right to protect himself.