MY BOYFRIEND THINKS IT'S RIGHT FOR HIM TO GO OUT

Question

ME AND MY BOYFRIEND HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 4 YEARS WE HAVE AN 18 MONTH LIL GIRL, WE HAVE OUR OWN PLACE AND HAVE BEEN FOR 2 YEARS WELL WE HAVE BEEN FIGHTING ALOT LATELY CUZ HE THINKS ITS RIGHT FOR HIM TO GO OUT WITH HIS FRIENDS AND TALK TO GIRLS AS FRIENDS WELL THE GIRLS CALL AND TXT HIM BEHIND M BAK AND I ALWAYS FIND OUT EVENTUALLY BUT HE SAYS THERE JUST FRIENDS AND THAT ITS RIGHT FOR HIM TO GO OUT AND TALK TO WHOEVER HE WANTS.... WELL IS THAT RIGHT FOR HIM TO DO THAT IF HE WANTS FOR THIS FAMILY TO WORK?

Answer 1

Well

i really dont think its right.

I would be so ******* pissed off if my boyfriend went out with other girls and texted them or called them...

You need to sit him down and talk to him and tell him how you feel about it.

Are you allowed to have guy friends?

If you have any guy friends try texting or hanging with them to make your boyfriend jealous.

Then he will know how you feel.

But try talking to him..or ask him if you could go with him when he goes out.

If he loves you he will listen to you.

If he still texts...calls..goes out with them...then  you have to decide what your going to do..

i hope i helped.

well good luck

Answer 2

I'm a strong supporter of equality in a relationship.

He's saying that it's okay for him to go out with his friends and talk to whoever he wants, even girls.

Would he say the same thing if you wanted to go out with the girls and talk to other men?

If you think he'd get upset with the switch of positions, then no, it's not right.

If he'd be okay, then it's only fair you allow him to do the same.

If you're not sure, why not give it a try?

Say, ' The girls invited me to go out to the bar tonight, so you're going to have to stay home with (your daughter's name). Don't forget to put her to bed at eight.'

If you going out with your friends in problematic, and yet he insists it's alright for him, it's time to have a little talk. Sit him down maturly, no yelling or fighting and explain your point.

Regardless, if he's going out often, leaving you to tend to your daughter, that's not right. Duties need to be shared, not piled on you. He should step up and understand what's really important in his life.

Answer 3

Well I understand were your coming from and you have every right to be mad at him because you never know what he might be doing so since he says he has every rights to go out then you should too. My mom nd her boyfriends are like that too. He always tell's her he's going to one of his friends house or hanging out with his friends and the next thing you know he doesn't come back till the next day but one day my mom followed him because he said he was gonna be at his friends house and when he wasn't there she went to a club and that's were he was and my mom kicked him out the house. This just happen recently so right now they ain't together but this always happens then he goes to my mom crying his eyes out to take him back god how I'm tired of his c**p.you should tell your man if he wants to go out and hang out with girls then your gonna do the same and hang out with boys because its not right that he gets to go out every time and you have to stay home with your daughter worrying where he really is , what he's doing , and who's he with. Girl trust me dint break your head over no man I understand fully well that he's your child's father but he knows fully well what he's doing and if he doesn't care then you shouldn't either.

Answer 4

perfectlt normal.  don't stiffle him or he'll leave.

Answer 5

Do the same thing right back to him. Even if your not going out and meeting guys....try being sneaking. Program one of your girlfriends numbers in your cell under a guys name. Have her text you sweet messages and leave them for him to read. Maybe if you have a myspace you can start networking and making new male friends....if he gets mad, you can throw it in his face that they are "just friends".

Jerks!

Answer 6

well it is every once in a while, but if its like every night, or every other night, its not right at all. you should tell him that if he wants this family to work out he needs to have more responsibility and take care of his family. and like every Sat. or someday in the week he could go out for a couple of a hours.

Answer 7

This is a tough one.  For some guys it is hard to avoid having female friends because that's just part of who they are used to hanging out with.  However, I would definitely be concerned if he seems to be losing interest in you or spending more time w/them than he does you.  If they are really just friends to him, then he shouldn't have to go behind your back to communicate w/them.  They should be like any other friend.  If he can't stop going behind your back, then it's time to do some serious consideration.

Answer 8

Usually I would say that your boyfriend does have a right to have his own set of friends, even if they are girls.  However, with a child in the picture, this becomes a little more complex.  He needs to realize that his main responsibility is to his child.  This means he has to give up partying every night and actually become a responsible adult.

He should be allowed to go out every now and then, maybe once or twice a week, but not every night.  He has joined the realm of parenthood.

Answer 9

if its okay for him to have friends who are girls then its okay for u to have friends who are guys. ur not goin to be datin them ur just goin to to text and talk to them on the phone but instead of u doin it behind his back you'll do it in front of him. i also want to mention that if he is just  "friends" with those girls than why does he talk to him behind ur back

Answer 10

There are several reasons this family will not work (I guarantee it). One is that your spelling and grammar as well as your text speech indicates you are both young and uneducated. This makes you have the wrong mindset to nurture a child into being the best they can be. Second is that you two have been a couple for four years and decided to bring a child into this world while clearly he has no interest in marrying you nor respecting you as a woman or a mother of his child with his behavior and actions towards other women.

First and foremost in your lives should be that baby who from the looks of it is going to have a very sad and unfortunate life. Though I suspect she will have half sisters and half brothers who are just as unfortunate to commiserate with as she gets older.

If you think I am harsh, save this answer and read it in ten or twenty years. You will realize that I am right on the money.

Answer 11

it depends.  if the girls are just saying hi, or asking question you should have no worries,.  BUT he does have a child and a responsibility to that child to be in their life.  if he can go out, then make sure there are certain days where he satys home and you can go out with your girlfriends.

Answer 12

It's one thing if he's just talking to these girls and it's another thing if you believe he's cheating. Did he got out before you guys moved into together? I'm suspecting the whole moving in thing went way to fast and that he still values his freedom. It's a phase most couples have and have not overcome, but begin to understand why he is doing this. You will then have a firmer grasp on what needs to be done in the best interest of the relationship and for your daughter.