MY HOUSE IS A WARZONE!! what do i do?!

Question

everyone in my house is constantly arguing and it really gets me down.

my dad always shouts and swears at me - mostly for no reason and it just gets me really upset.

our latest argument was this morning..

my parents were going out and i said wait one minute cuz i need to brush my teeth..

they said no and slammed the door.

my dad then rang me up calling me every name under the sun and said that i couldnt get my second ear piercing today because he has "power over me and id better not forget that".

i dont think i did anything?!!

how do i make him see that i desperately want my ears pierced ?

how can i stop these constant arguments??

my mum does nothing. just watches and agrees with my dad because shes scared of him.

no matter wot i do to help my mum:

ironing, unload the dishwasher, lay the table, put my little sister to bed, tidy up the playroom-

shes never happy.

im tired of this now.

im 13.

Answer 1

Call the national child abuse hotlline. What dad is doing is abuse. Mom is just as bad for not protecting you. Get out of there, get a restraining order and get some family counseling. Home is where you should feel safe most of all. Your parents need help. You need to be safe while they get it. I am dead serious. This is out of hand.

1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453)

childhelp.org

Answer 2

thats already abuse u should tell your school counselor or an adult u realy trust.

Answer 3

try to find out why your parents oppose???

For what reason?

May be they are concerned and don't know how to react. or else find out why and say u wont it becoz u like this way..substantiate.

or else you too cry ...may be they feel guilty

Answer 4

well can you go stay with your gran or some one eles tell them you want time out and if they look tht pissed off  say thts wht the school counsler told you  and you want to try it ........ but in the end I think you need to talk to some one close to you

Answer 5

Well most people are going to say go to a counselor or something like that.

Well theres nothing you can do, your only 13!

It seems like your dad wont listen to you at all so you cant talk to them.

You could talk with an aunt or uncle or grandparents about them,

Stay strong!

Answer 6

he seems like a pretty bad person.You should have a heart-to-heart with your mom,when you`re dad`s not around and tell her how he`s verbally hurting you and that theese things have to stop.You`re mom`s probably unhappy about it too.I don`t think she could change him but maybe she should try to be more of a fighter and not to agree with him about everything,if this doesn`t help,she sould take you and your lil` sis and move out.I`m really sorry you`re in a situation like this and you should`t think about a silly ear-piercing,you should think about saving your family.good luck

Answer 7

You are at an age that is probably difficult for your parents to cope with. However, that is no excuse for your father's controlling issues or for him to call you names. If mother isn't coming to your rescue, what about grandparents? Write down the names you've been called and the situations that brought the episodes about. Take the list with you and talk to grandparents. Hopefully they can and will intervene on your behalf.

This may be a situation of verbal abuse from your father and neglect from your mother. Chances are dad has been the same way toward mom and she may just be trying to survive her depression. Sadly, your family needs outside counseling. Perhaps you can get grandparents to suggest that.

Good luck.

Answer 8

WOW!  You have bigger things to worry about than whether or not you get your ears pierced....you can always do that later with your own money on your own time.

I would avoid the entire situation all the time.  When your Dad is mean to you, swares, or whatever, I would look right at him, and tell him that you are sorry he feels that way.  Go to your room and keep a journal...write it down exactly as he said it- IN QUOTES.  After you have accumulated some of his abuse in writing, (with dates and times of the incidents and what provoked them....even if  you saw nothing), share it privately with your Mom.  Tell her that it is abusive....keep journaling.   Don't go on family outings- that seem to invite these problems.  Stay home. Go to friend's houses.  Read, draw, watch movies, exercise, find things that bring you joy-

This is not normal and this is NOT your fault.  Watch other families and how they interact---

clearly, your father has an issue- and he is angry at everyone else instead of dealing with his own issues.....

Good luck!  Journaling should help, and at least it documents the situation- so that if he is ever ready to DEAL with some of it- or tries to deny it- you have written proof.

Counselor at school might have some ideas as well.  Good luck! :)

Answer 9

Well all i can say is when you can get them alone together sit down with them and try to explain how you feel about the arguing and all your other concerns. Sometimes it just happens to be like that in families and you really can't do to much about it. I am sorry you are going through that but hopefully things can change for the better. Hope it works out and good luck!

Answer 10

just call him old man, and do it anyway, when he tries to say anything just yell over the top of him "shut up old man shut up old man at him, eventually he will lose all authority, this works better if you have siblings who join in.