MY MIND WANTS TO GO BACK AND STAY IN THE '50s. . .WHY????

Question

I always have feelings of melancholy living in today's world. The '50s held the most memorable time for me. I can't relate to today's world or environment . . .AT ALL. The kids today seem so-o-o-o disrespectful; the crime (type and level) are way-y-y-y too heinous and frequent; the music (rap, heavy metal, etc. etc.) is awful beyond words (kids will NEVER be able to look back in fondness to it); education no longer appears valued; patriotism no longer appears extolled; nothing about today's world inspires me. Why can't I move beyond these feelings and accept that the '50s are never going to come back. That "life" will never be like that again. These are horrible feelings. I hate feeling like this. ANY IDEAS, THOUGHT, OR SUGGESTIONS????

Answer 1

It is a very sad time that we live in nowadays.  And almost all of us older peolpe long for the old days..so much safer, respectful, loving etc...

It is scarey now...we wish that our younger people could share all the things we loved and that made us feel happy and safe.  There is no going back though..the world is a different place..and it will never be as we once knew it..HUGS!!

Answer 2

the 50's had their peccadillos too. Imagine what the elders said while the 50's were taking place. they too were disoriented and cynical.

I think as you age it happens to all.

Answer 3

Accept the reasoning that people are cold, cruel, unforgiving and the world sucks. in the 50's you were not aware of it. you were naive.

Answer 4

How can you speak for others ?  saying they won't look back on their youth with fondness ? You seem a bit  one sided in your thinking , like only you had a  great childhood . You need to get out of the past . talk to a therapist  . life is great , it isn't like my youth either but i bet in the 50's ya couldn't sit you butt down in a chair and instantly send  a message around the world in real time ! get out and embrace the world  

Answer 5

well, i figure, no matter where you are you are always going to be wishing you were somewhere else, doing something else. its like, we people, will always be nostalgic.

i am actually, only 14, so if my words attempting to be wisdom come off a little immature I apologize.

I actually wish that the year was 1992-93, or something, you know? So i guess I kind of can relate you what you feel.

If it makes you feel any better, the kids aren't ALL disrespectful, and, there still is good music coming around, you just have to look hard and know where to look. Those things can be drowned out though, I love to learn, and I know real people who do as well. Crime, however, you are right.

Everything is different, and will always be different, and will only continue to grow more different, but all you can do is find hope in the simpler things, and learn to love the things you are stuck with.

I, for instance, had to move from a place I truly loved and cherished to this terrible state, where the kids are completely different, and, I have now found myself a wall flower, but its better this way. If you hold on and hope for something more, all those terrible feelings, feel a little less terrible..

I don't know, if I answered your question, and I kind of rambled on a bit about my own life, and irrelevant things (d**n kids!) but, yeah, take care.  

Answer 6

I feel the EXACT same way you do about going back in time. I also have always wanted to go back to Queen Elizabeth's time with Castles, and Kings and Queens, etc. But I just don't know why that is.  

Answer 7

I did not live in the 50s and to be honest, when I hear about how it was, I'm glad that I didn't.

I grew up in 80s and 90s and I have a hard time understanding some of things that teenagers are doing today. But, not all teenagers are like this. I mean, there are so many things that are so great about living in this time. So many things that weren't available to us before. There are so many opportunities for us to do good things. Think about it. Just the fact that you are able to get on a computer and come on here and ask about this and have someone answer you. You don't know me personally. You don't know where I live. I could be anywhere and here I am sitting here, answering and communicating with you mere minutes after you posted your questions. Isn't that brilliant!?

I understand what you mean about all the chaos that seems to be out there these days. But you know, I don't think it's just now. The chaos was always there...even in the 50s. It's just that it's always on the news. I mean, they report about everything now because they have these 24 hour news channels and they need to put something on there. And they really do try to over-sensationalize everything just to keep the ratings up.

But if you look around, there are so many good things being done in the world.

However, don't feel bad for going down memory lane and remembering the 50s. I do that all the time, except I do it with the 80s and90s.I think we all do once we reach a certain age. I go back in time in my head and remember the days of Pac Man and all that. But it's important to live in the now. Trust me, there are so many great things we can accomplish today because we have the opportunity to connect with others. We just have to choose to use it wisely...

I don't know if this will help...

But I hope it does and I hope you can be happy in the 21st century.

Answer 8

The '50s was an era I never experienced, so I wouldn't know about that.

However, the music you are talking about isn't the only genre around today. Even oldies can enjoy good old acoustic music like Jack Johnson. If you were a Sinatra fan, Michael Buble might be the ticket for you.

Answer 9

I think it's not that abnormal to get the feeling that things are going to h**l the older you get. I bet that older people in the 50s were saying the same thing: the "kids these days..." attitude. But there was a radical shift in the culture during the 60s, so if you felt happy and comfortable in the culture of the 50s, that feeling is probably more pronounced.

But we all have to realize that we're all really of a certain time and life moves on. I grew up in the 70s, and I'm also starting to get that curmudgeonly, slightly alienated feeling from the culture. It's a part of life. I'm not young anymore, I'm out of the last millenium, right? And it's only going to get worse :).  

Answer 10

I'm the same way. Except that I'm stuck in the 1700's. Ha ha.

I don't know what to tell you. I read books from the time period I'm interested in or take place in that time period. I like getting lost in it. Don't know if that will help though, might throw you deeper into it.

I'm really sorry I couldn't help you more, but I completely agree with you!!!