MY PARENTS HIT ME ALL THE TIME AND IM SICK OF IT!!!!!?

Question

My parents hit me all the time even when its a tiny little thing cz their stressed but they shouldnt take it out on me also my mum keeps blaming me and my siblings for my dad having leukemia it says in all the books on telling ur kids their parent is ill to reasure them its not their fault? hmmmm. Im sick of them hitting kickin and swearing at me ! I dont want to go into care or for them to go to jail i just want them to be taught a lesson and to STOP!

Answer 1

MY parents are like this. Asian parents. Yup, no stereotype at all. [=

But hey, my parents have been doing this for half of my life. Everything is gonna be okay. Since you don't want to go into care, or call the police (like I don't want to either), hang in there like I am.

It's not you're fault. They just don't know how to handle their anger. My parents are teaching me a lesson right now, and that is:

To never hit your child because I know how it feels like. To be insecure, to be left with a thought of, 'My parents hate me.'

Even though they don't know it, just hang in there. Tell them to read the book, A Child Called It by David Pelzer. I promise they'll look back on the mistakes they've made. Deep down, they still love you. But they shouldn't do it in this way, I know. I know how it feels like.

(I'm probably going to get a lot of thumbs down on this one, but I'm just saying, I know because I'm living it right now.)

Answer 2

tell them if they don't start going to family counseling about all the stress that you're going to call the authorities because you've had enough.  Don't wait until a fight starts.  When you've made up and you're calmer, tell them you want to speak with them together, make them sit with you and tell them.  If they blow you off and don't get counseling - and you genuinely are being hit and don't just disciplined for doing something stupid or selfish while they're world is falling apart around them - then call child protection services and get advice.  In fact, you can call a confidential child line anytime - it's free and anonymous, and they can give you the best guidance, or even just listen when you feel stressed.  They may help with you finding counseling yourself in your area, or know free centres with help.  

Answer 3

so call the police. Then they will get taught a lesson. Its the only way. Unless you hit them so hard and hock the f_ out of the and say u the 5 letter word and say leave me alone.

Ok im serious the best thing to do is call the cops. My friend who i know for 9 years. His parents hit him in the kidney and it was black and blue where they hit him and he was scared and couldn't take anymore. So i freaking called 911 and told them what happend and how hes living with me. stop f_ing around and do it before you get so hurt that you will be in the hospital for a long time.  

Answer 4

Your parents do not have the right to hit you - period.  That's my opinion.  But I can understand that you don't want any more bad things to happen to your family, and you certainly don't want your family torn apart any more than it already is.  

What your family needs is someone who can help your parents control their anger and frustration and see the reality that no one is to blame for leukemia.  You've obviously done some research about your dad's illness - you mention "all the books."  This tells me you're capable of finding information.  Your dad must be seeing doctors.  Someone at his clinic must have talked to your family about what they can expect from his leukemia.  Can you find that person or one of the doctors?  Tell them how stressed your family is and ask if there's someone you can call for help.  Many clinics have social workers or counselors who help families deal with serious illness.  Ask for a referral. They may be able to counsel and work with your parents so that your family can stay together.  

Good luck to you all.  I hope your dad's health improves and that your family will come through this.

Answer 5

They should go to jail for child abuse.

Answer 6

Personally I'm pro-smacking so if you and your sibling misbehave, fair enough, a good smack round the back of your legs wont kill you! It may warn you not to misbehave in future. However if they are smacking you for no reason, swearing and kicking you that's abuse, and you need to contact Childline.

Please remember they are your parents and you love them, but abuse is un-called-for, however, misbehavior does have to be punished. Try behaving really well and see what happens, chances are your parents are stressed and tired, making them lash out when you do a 'tiny little thing', just because it's something Elsa to worry about!

Answer 7

Your parents should not be hitting you,no matter how stressed out they are. I am sorry to hear that your father has leukemia,but it is not you or your siblings fault for that.  If you and your siblings cannot sit down with your parents and talk,then you need to talk to a counselor,or someone you can trust. It is not right for you to be getting hit,kicked,sweared at or any of that.

I hope that things will eventually get better for you and your family. I will pray for you. But if the hitting does not stop,you have to tell someone. Whether you like it or not,your parents have to face the consequences of what they are doing,if they do not stop.Just as children have to respect their parents,children deserve respect too.

Answer 8

Your parent's love you, and you know that.  They're just so stressed out about things at work, with friends, and especially your dad's sickness.  They probably hit you and your siblings because you're just one more thing to be stressed about.  Don't feel bad. All parents feel that way, but some show it more than others.  Keep a phone with you at all times, and when you're being hit, or threatened to be hit, dial 9 and 1 and tell your parents (whoever is abusing you) to stop, or you'll dial the last one, and off to jail they'll go.  

You need to stand up for yourself, don't be afraid to.  Other kids in the world feel the same way, and by stopping your case, you're helping them stop theirs.

Be strong for your dad.

<3 D.J.

Answer 9

Just call the police and they will be in jail. Abuse is not right. Who cares if your parents if they are stressted out. They shouldnt be doing that to you.