MY SISTERS.....CAN DEFINITELY LIVE WITHOUT EM.....?

Question

WOW! I'm about to blow my top i cant take it anymore i have put up with bs for 14 years, i have a twin sister and a little sister, and i feel like my mom is bias towards me and i just cant get over it anymore. Firstly my twin sister is a jerk, if that can merely describe her. Im tired of her bs and her one way point of view. If anything is not her way she gets po'd. Than my little sister is a frickin valley girl shallow drives me crazy. Shes so lazy and whines like a baby anytime something isnt perfect for her and i kno that shes not getting that from our environment, even my mom gets on her about that. My twin sister is and AHHHH Words cant even describe how much of, i just cant stand tobe seen in public with them. Whenever we go out and say i stretch and put my feet up, she starts stabbing with my foot with a pen, i yell to my sister wth and kick her hand, she goes off tells mom, and im f*cked. What also really gets to me is if i do something, i get a earful, and there are concequences, my sister does something she gets away with a warning. My mother thinks since im a male and im the oldest (by 10min...) I need to be so careful about how i act. I kno my moms scared of my sister of being with the wrong person for her., but its not fair. I know her dad might have been abusive to her mother, but she has the highest expectations for me and the no expectations for my sister. It seems shes always the first one to get something, even though im the oldest. I have all the responsibiltes of being older, but rarely none of the benefits. All you might say, ooo im just as one sighted one minded as the person as im describing, believe me you have no idea so just dont even answer please. Now my mom gets mad when i dont go on family outings, or insist i dont want to go unless i am forced to. I dont want to spend anymore time with my sisters than i have too. Of course I love them unconditonally but i do not like them at all. AHHHH i dont know i really dont expect alot of ppl to understand but a mere few that can relate to the situation would be welcome. I have tried talking to them, and it always turns, to me that i need to change for her to change. I have to the right thing for a very long period of time for her to start acting the right way. I have to earn her curtesy; supposedly i dont deserve it. When i was little you have no idea how much i wanted it, now im almost at the point where i could care less, and it almost scared me at one point when i thoguht about.

Answer 1

I to had to deal with a house full of women; and yes, i can agree to the fact that my mothers decision making was rather biased on my part. But i learned that the best way to get back at your sisters, is to simple ignore them. Since they are attention seekers i figured not giving them attention would put an end to their whining and moaning. I also avoided getting in their way because they would complain to my mother then i would get the blame, big whoop. But don't get me wrong i love my sisters, but they can get annoying as you described in the question.  

Answer 2

okay look long story short

yea we all go thru this wen we're younger

our sisters drive us mad

we wanna kill 'em and so forth

wait until you hit 19 or 20 and you'll realise how much they mean to u

u'll realise their the only ones u can talk to about anything at all without feeling stupid

u'll realise they care for u more than u care about them

u'll realise ur sisters are some of the few ppl u can really trust

dont worry its a normal part of growing up

i have 3 sisters myself, so I know exactly how u feel

we also had plenty of fights and arguements growing up

now that we're older we look back on that teenager period and just laugh and realise how we were fighting over absolutely NOTHING...

trust me u'll grow out of it and u'll appreciate ur sisters later on in life

Answer 3

Between the kids I gave birth to and my step kids, there are 11 children who were asked to get along. It never works, but we pray for patience. Your dad was smart not to go on those trips. You'll understand soon enough that being good at your work grows out of having too much stress at home and needing a good outlet. My suggestion is to follow your dad's lead. Go out and get a job and leave your sisters at home. They're a whole lot easier to live with when you don't have to see them 24/7 The fact that you make money and get to surround yourself with new people is purely coincidental.

Answer 4

> Whenever we go out and say i stretch and put my feet up, she starts stabbing with my foot with a pen,

You are smarter than she is. Don't stretch or put your feet up when she is around. If you do, and she stabs you, don't complain. You know it is going to happen. It shouldn't, but it will. You know it will. You can't change her. You can't change your mother. You CAN be smarter. If you stick your head under the hose, don't complain that your hair gets wet.

More advice you didn't ask for:

You might try a different category. This is Genealogy, the study of family trees. The automatic category picker saw "sisters" and thought this was the spot for your question. Computers are lightning fast but terribly stupid. You have to watch them.

If you posted in

Family & Relationships > Family

you'd get a dozen answers.

If you compose in "Word", spell check, then copy and paste, your post would look better. Y!A's spell checker craps out after 300 words or so. It isn't really designed for heavy duty work.

We all need to spell check. I have a degree in English and I've sold articles to magazines, and I need it. Sometimes your fingers and your thoughts flow at different speeds and you muff a word. The really embarrassing ones are the ones that mean something else, like "dint" and "didn't" or "there" and "their".

Put in a blank line between paragraphs, too. See?

Be warned - there are no magic wands. Unless you have a house so big each child gets a three-room suite, families who live in the same house have friction. Sometimes even the three-room suite solution doesn't work, if all those murder mysteries set among the filthy rich people in England are accurate.

It will get better when you are old enough to get a job and move out. then you'll have to see them maybe three times a year, at Mother's Day, Thanksgiving and Christmas. If you marry the right girl, you'll have brothers-in-law you get along with, and you can spend time with them pitching horseshoes and drinking beer. Plus, you can spend at least half the holidays with her family, not yours, and not hurt anyone's feelings.