MY son saw vaginas?

Question

we took him to harold and kumar 2 thinking that he wouldnt understand anything and now he's asking what that thing between the girls legs are. help?

Answer 1

Well, depending on how old he is. Any age after they can talk, you want to be careful what they see and hear. My daughter tried to stand up and pea one day and that's because she saw a little boy in the daycare do it. Now we are at a different daycare and she's asking my bf what that "thing" is on boys. So, you have to be careful.

Answer 2

Be honest and tell him what it is.  You'll do more harm to the poor little guy if you're not open and honest about anatomy and sexuality than if you try to pretend that vaginas don't exist and don't mention it.

Answer 3

well he was going to find out sometime explain it to him but you dont have to be in such detail if you would be uncomfortable

Answer 4

just tell him it won't change anything if you don't tell him he will find out on his own so just tell him in a easy way don't give him details

Answer 5

tell him somthing was wrong with the film.

Answer 6

no big deal...If you make a thing out of it he'll make a deal out of it.  Ask him what he saw, tell him girls are different..end of story.  He'll be just as innocent but giggle lots..don't worry.

Answer 7

a problem with the screen, or a mustache..

Answer 8

It's always difficult to know when is appropriate. We took the general view that if they were old enough to ask they were old enough to hear the answer. We tended to find if we had misjudged that the explanation would just fly over their heads if they were not ready.

Hope that helps.

Answer 9

And how old is he??

Answer 10

Well, here's a novel idea - how about explaining to him? Doesn't have to be graphic or over the top, though!

Answer 11

that why movies have ratings, smart one!

looks like youre in a pickle. just say its their private area.

Answer 12

Answer his question.  How old is your son?  What made you think that movie was appropriate for a child?  Why would you take a child to a movie hoping they wouldn't understand, would you want to sit through two hours of anything that you didn't understand?  Sounds like torture.

Answer 13

Well, explain to him the truth, using the correct words...but SHAME ON YOU for taking such a young kid to a movie that was way too mature and inappropriate for him!

Why do you think they rate the darn things in the first place?  You would be amazed what kids pick up--I hope you learned your lesson!

Answer 14

Be honest with him. Explain that boys are different from girls.

And in the future find more age suitable viewing material. Little kids get more then you think they would.

Answer 15

Tell him that it is a bodily function, and it is okay. Why would you take him to Harold and Kumar? If he is old enough to go, you should have talked to him about vaginas a long time ago.

Answer 16

i don't have kids but i do have an opinion,and that is that we are born naked that is human if you treat it like its a big deal then your acting like "whoa i'm a human" thats what your, teaching to me its a violation of common sense for the human  brain hencefore not a sound way for the youth grow as humans.....basically it'll be alright....

Answer 17

well hes gonna have to know sometime

and you dont want him to be that one kid who doesnt know anything.

Answer 18

just tell him the truth! You dont say what age your son is, but my daughter who is 3, saw a baby boy in a birthing book and was questioning his 'bits' , so i just told her that wee boys have different bits to her, and she now calls them twinkles!!!

Answer 19

Hopefully he was going to see one at some point.  Might be time to have that talk...

Answer 20

How old is he? It is normal to ask, children ask questions about absolutely everything. Just tell him girls and boys are different, and that they use that organ to pee, just like he uses his p***s to pee

Answer 21

thats your fault for taking him to harold and kumar.

Answer 22

How old is he?

Just explain they have an organ there which is different from a p***s but has the same function -> peeing

If you don't want him to know more don't tell him more than necessary.

Answer 23

Why the h**l are you taking your kid to a movie like that! You know kids pick up things by watching and listening what there parents do at a very young age.

Answer 24

Hahahahahahaaaa!

i keep saying all the time, "Parents are dumb to think their kids don't notice stuff."  This is just more proof about that.

My advice:  Tell him what it is - female genitalia.  Show him some pictures in an age appropriate s*x education book, speak frankly and don't freak him out.

And after that, don't be watching stuff that may be fine for adults, but that you don't want your little boy to have to deal with just yet.  He has eyes and a brain, and he's not just a tiny adult who can process stuff with ease.

Answer 25

Never take a child to adult movies unless you can answer questions. Be honest with him and explain the difference between girls and boys. You don't have to give him all the details just a basic idea. Just be honest and up front with him. If all else fails go to the library or book store and get one of those books designed for children that helps explain.

Answer 26

at the doc office we tell mothers to answer the questions truthfully and when they come up. tell him the truth and use the correct terms. tell him that this is private and only to be talked about at home.

Answer 27

Since this wasn't the exact way you were probably going to tell your son about the differences between a woman and a man, but just sit down with him and tell him about those differences.

Answer 28

I dont know how old is your son?..... let me rephrase that how old are you?  Your are right on one thing your son wouldn't understand anything and thats why he is asking you these embarrasing questions. If you  just explain to him what it is most likely everything will be just fine.   Just don't try to use film as an educational tool.   With your common sense you might reach out for a p**n flick and say  look son that is a v****a and he will have a million more questions for you

Answer 29

Well hey,

he popped out of one, just tell him what it is.. O_o

depends on his age though, if hes like younger than 11 or 12, you should wait until he gets a bit older.

Hope i helped, lol

xx

Answer 30

you should be glad that he's interested to know about it.man always take time to learn on something they find it interesting.

Answer 31

children are not blind or dumb. they do notice stuff. so remember that next time. LOL.

it's not a big deal. don't make it seem bad or negative or icky.

just explain that boys and girls are different. and that it's okay. that boys look like he does and that girls look like what he saw. it's not a bad thing...children learn there is a difference between the sexes pretty early in life, and it's just an innocent question.

if you make a huge deal about it you might freak the kid out.

as for future movie viewing....best to keep it Disney as possible hon.

been there done that- bought the T-shirt, the bobble head, etc.