Made a big mistake..?

Question

A couple of months ago one of my close friends told me a secret, she told 3 other people too. I was stupid enough to tell someone this secret and it got around. Another person who she told told other people too, so two of us broke her trust. She rang me asking if i had told anyone, and I denied it and dragged it on. I have just told her that it was me who told. She's not happy with me and isn't speaking. I know I've done wrong and shouldn't have told but if that made any sense to someone, could you give any helpful suggestions on what I should do?

By the way I go to boarding school so i live about three hours away from my friends so there is no way I can meet up.

Thank you x

Answer 1

let it be a lesson to you, you have to be able to trust your friends, I know personal secrets about a few of my friends and I wouldn't tell even my closest friends something they had asked me not to. all you can do is apologise.

Answer 2

Secrets are something that are not made to be broken.  It doesn't matter how many others or who broke the trust but YOU did and YOU are accountable to your friend.  To top it off you LIED to your friend when she confronted you and you told her you didn't tell anyone.

There is only one solution.  Because of the fact that you live so far away, and because you do attend a boarding school and you are probably going to have to face this person again and want her to be your friend again you need to "ring" her up again and be honest and truthful and tell her how "awful" you feel and that you "cherish" her friendship and you should have never been childish enough to break her trust. Don't mention the fact that anyone else also broke her trust because this is between her and you.  Apologize from the bottom of her heart and let her know that you "honor" her friendship and really want it to continue.

Peace & Love :)

Answer 3

You broke her trust. She may still be friendly to you at some point, but don't expect her to ever confide in you again.

Answer 4

you were right, you did wrong, but at least you told her the truth in the end. i understand that she would be angry, i would be, but she will forgive you, just dont expect her to confide in you again.

Answer 5

well, tell us what this secret was .. i need full info if i am to give you good advice ;)

Answer 6

I have been in a situation like that aswell, and from experience I have learnt that if you are really close then she should forgive you, but dont expect her to trust you like she used too. It will take time, you will have to gain her trust gradually, good luck!

Answer 7

ok its not the end of the world now to get your friends attention try apologizing and showing you reall ydo care. call her up adn tell her how things really went down so she wont have to be thinking bad about you if she still does consider you her friend then she will realize. nobody is perfect and there is always a reason why people do things.

...hope i helped you out..

Answer 8

As she's a close friend I'm sure she will forgive you eventually. These things happen when your young. Write her a letter maybe to express how sorry you are.

Answer 9

Trust is not easily given. When it's gone, it's hard to get back.  All you can do is apologize and wait.