My Maid of Honor is a very disorganized, last minute kind of girl, and I've always known this about her. I have a really hard time getting close to people and trusting/relying on them, so a lot of thought went into who should be my MOH. In the end, I picked her because I've known her since freshman year of high school (I'm 25 now), I hang out with her the most, it's easy to talk to her about anything, and she is my closest friend.
Now, whenever I bring up wedding plans, she always tells me it's too far away to even talk about it (even though obviously, weddings are planned in advance!) One of my bridesmaids took the reigns in planning the bridal shower, and when I asked my MOH if she's ok with it, she said "maid of honor is just a title, let her plan it if she wants." I am offended by this because she KNOWS how hard it is for me to call someone a close friend, and for me, MOH is NOT just a title but an honor. Besides, all she's done in the past few months is tell me when she is NOT available to do wedding stuff because she will be busy doing something else. Now I don't expect her to be available all the time, but why is all I've heard from her that she CAN'T do something? We were looking at invitations and she said "I am SO not ordering invitations for your bridal shower". Also, she made a big stink about how I better not plan anything around her birthday "week" (yes, most people have a birthDAY but she considers the entire WEEK hers), which is a month before my wedding. Just to compare, my other bridesmaid's birthday is 2 DAYS before my wedding, and she hasn't complained once, even though HER entire birthday weekend will be consumed by my wedding.
If I could go back in time, I wouldn't even HAVE a maid of honor, I would just call everyone bridesmaids and have them be equal. Too late to take it back now though. Can I talk to her about this at all? She is the kind of person who is incapable of taking any criticism and if I tried to talk to her about this, it would NOT go over well. What do you think?
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