Ever since I turned a teenager, my father had begun to strain our relationship. 3 years later, he still treats me like I'm a burden. It's gotten to the point where I've drastically minimized the relationship we used to have and have begun to resent him. Before I made that decision though, my life at home was very stressful. I was never good enough for my dad, no matter how hard I tried to impress him by constantly helping around the house, keeping straight A grades, and doing many other things that would impress "normal" people. He even called me names and put me down a lot. I can't tell you how many times I was called stupid, dumb, retarded, idiot, and even an a$$ (that's just the ones I can remember). I just couldn't take the verbal and emotional stress anymore. I have kept a respectable distance from my father since then, but the other night I heard him blaming me for the stress in his life. He was telling my mother that he couldn't accept the relationship we (me and my mom) shared. MY mom and I have a very special bond...we are very similar to best friends, except that I know and respect her higher authority and always listen to her rules. Anyway, my dad also complained that he couldn't accept that I couldn't get a job, even though I've been to multiple interviews trying to get one, acting like it's the easiest thing in the world to do. Does anyone have any advice for what I can do in this situation?
(I have tried talking to my dad already about my feelings and he just says they're stupid and selfish)
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