Major teen problems.?

Question

my son was caught consuming alcohol with a car full of idiots. He had a bac of .10 and he claims it was only 2 beers? and today i got his report card and he had d,d,d,c,a,b. o and by the way the car was stolen and had marijuana bongs and stolen credit cards with stolen gas in it. and he got a hefty curfew ticket. should i beat him?hes 16

Answer 1

Yes you should beat him! That was completely ridiculous and stupid for him to do. Beat some sense into that boy.

Answer 2

No, beating him is not going to benefit you in anyway. You need to sit with him, discuss the problem, tell him what you think about it and make him understand that he is not supposed to do this again. Be stern and straight with him about everything. Make sure that he responds to you and gets what you are talking. Give him time and keep a track of what is happening in his life, so that you can correct him at the right time. This will help him in the long run.

Answer 3

Dont do that hes to old for that.

Call the police on him

and he will go to jail.

Then you dont have to worry about

trying to keep him grounded.

It will teach him a lesson but he might hate you.

Answer 4

beating him is going to make him do that sort of stuff more.

Answer 5

no, beating a child is against the law, even smacking them is frowned apon, i suggest you take the car away from him or somthing he loves to use or play with, money, credit cards or make him take a job to repay the fines.

also... how would you beat a 16 year old???

hope i helped xoxo :o)

Answer 6

Sit him down and talk about it - adult to adult.

No shouting at each other, no screaming and NO BEATING!!! (I mean, wtf?)

If that doesn't work tell him you've washed your hands of him and kick him out. That should change his tune.

Answer 7

i think your grammer, spelling and punctuation are completely irrelevant n ppl should just answer a question (lol i contridicted myself) there are more permanant and effective punishments than beatings, personally i laugh at my parents wen they threaten to hit me, so now they come up with particularly sadistic and twisted punishments like clean the bathroom wit a toothbrush or u get a piece of stale bread for dinner and so on and so on, (bad move on my part huh) but you would need to assert yourself in some way (like scare the c**p out of him)  balance is they key, oh and take his money or u will never see him again if you punish him properly.

btw its your kid, your responsibility. n asking randoms to assist in your predicament....isnt really gonna help. u know ur son we dont.

Answer 8

I thinnk you should beat him although I dont think it will do much.

Answer 9

do not beat him. there are other ways to punish.

Answer 10

You Should Send Him To As Boot Camp Or Something That Helped My Brother Calm Down. Now He's In The Army And Doesn't Drink Or Smoke.

Beating Him Will Make Him Worse.

Hope I Helped.

Answer 11

He's freaking 16! If you hit him, what do you think he's going to do? Hit you back, duh. Especially with his track record.

If you're even being serious, which I doubt.

Answer 12

you should never beat a child you should sit down and have a sturn  talking to but beating a child is never the ay to go

expecially a 16 year old

Answer 13

Are you REALLY a parent? Seriously I hope you aren't.

NO, DON'T BEAT HIM. If you do I hope you get thrown in prison!

Answer 14

Your avatar looks about 16, what the h**l are you doing having kids when your 0  ?

Answer 15

I think you know that beating him won't solve the problems....

Look at yourself - is he mimicking your behavior?  Really, look at yourself in the mirror.  

If he were my child, there would be some huge changes around the house.  I'd run a military boot camp at home Lwol.  Up at 6 am for a run, he'd make breakfast for the family while I got ready for work, he'd be doing laundry and helping out.   He'd go off to his part time job where I would be constantly on the phone to him boss finding out if he was behaving himself.  He'd have a cell phone and he'd have to call me every hour to tell me where he was.  

Once he got home, he'd be cleaning the house - he'd have a list a mile long after that kind of behavior.  On Saturday he could have a (ONE) friend over while I was home for two hours.  No tv, no cell phone other than to call me, no fun privileges for a month.  I'd lax a little after a month, but it would be something very small, like maybe one friend over for the day and we could go do something all together (oh, the horror of having a chaperone!).

That kind of behavior doesn't fly with me.  Oh and I'd talk with the judge about community service to the max.

Sucks to be my kid, huh?

Answer 16

I would reccomend beating some sense into him, thats probably not the way to go. just watch him be more strict, ground him. like a child

Answer 17

I wouldn't beat him but I certainly would seek professional help for him. There's obviously something going on with him and you can guarantee that he's not just drinking but is at the very least smoking pot. No way he only had 2 beers and had a .10 BAC. I would suggest that you seek assistance from a dual diagnosis place for teenagers. (Dual Diagnosis means behavioral and drug/alcohol). I lost my 18 year old son to suicide 3 years ago today to drug/alcohol and mental health issues so I know from experience that these things only escalate and water seeks its own level. If he's hanging out with friends like those, he's into the same things they are. Please don't go into denial about it and don't think a heavy hand will fix it because it won't. Your family is in my prayers. If there is anything I can do to help, questions I can answer for you, please do not hesitate to email me.

Answer 18

don't beat him, it will only antagonize and make him worse.

you should definitely  punish him and do something serious but don't touch him. could cause him to rebel further.

Answer 19

no, beating will make him angry so he's more likely to do worse to get back at you. sit down with him and insist he talks with you like the dult he is.

Answer 20

No, you shouldn't beat someone whose already 16. You should try other ways to punish him.

You should be a good example for you son.

Answer 21

I would make sure he is not using the fone, and he has to do everything with you. No one can come over, no one can talk to him. I would make sure he cant sneak out at night. I would take away his tv and everything in his room. As or grades, i would make sure his school work is done, checking the answers making sure they are right. And tell him he is getting nothing till he has them higher. make sure you have time to get him from school. Basically, make it so he does not have time for nothing else, so he is home with you.

He has to pay his ticket... If he has no job... he can mow the lawn and do chores around the house... Making the chores he is doing worth half the amount... so he works 2times as hard for the money.

he has to earn everything back... your bac can be different from one person to the next. depends on size and weight. Also... how slow or fast the beers were drank.

Good luck... sorry to hear he is not doing so well!

Answer 22

i understand slapping him hard a few times but don't do anything else. i don't believe in beating your own children. first, give him a talk about how much of a screwup he is becomeing. don't even bother with the i am dissapointed in you c**p cause he won't really care. obviously punish your kid very harshly. once you get past that you need to focus on the drug problems, i have many a family member who killed themselves with drugs so i know what its like. maybe show him the show dirty jobs, cause thats most likely him if he contenues that. scare him about drugs and the effects.

your going to need to keep a close eye on him regardlessly, best of luck

Answer 23

yes. beat him although it might not do much. He has to learn on his own that what he's doing is not mature for his age and maybe he'll realize later that his life would be ****ed up if he doesnt control himself.

Answer 24

hmm talk to him seriously, what he wants and what he plans for his future. I'm only 17 and I'm in college, my mom and dad talks to me and asks me about my studies at least twice or 4 times a week. They want me to spend more quality time with them and they are my best friends. Don't beat him, it will cause him to take revenge or do worst things, get him grounded or ask him to do something that you think will improve his behavior, give orders as his punishment and make him learn from his mistakes . I think it's really good if you spend more time with him, he needs you.