Making acquisition and jealousy.

Question

my son's father pops up at my home unexpected no phone call or anything, and he has accused me of cheating. does that mean the one that is accusing is the one doing the cheating themselves.

Answer 1

Usually.  Or at least he wants to.

You need to tell him he cannot "just show up".

He needs to call in advance and ask when it will be okay.  Put your foot down.

Answer 2

Could be.  Could be Not.

Could be delusional, this man whom you'd rather not call husband but only the father of your son.

He could really be convinced that you are having other men, and this is the reason for the surprise visits,  to check if there is a man on the bed or hiding under it.   If you are not married, and you would not rather, perhaps he could not accept it and became mentally unbalanced.  Suggest you get a protection order from the courts, and file a complaint with the police.

If you are still concerned that he might be the one cheating, it might mean there is still a chance for the relationship.   In this case, forget about my earlier suggestion, and have dinner with him.

Added:  Almost forgot.  That "acquisition" should be "accusation".   That really threw me off for a moment.

Answer 3

Just ignore his accusations. For sure, he's the guilty party.