Making friends in college...has my window of opportunity closed?

Question

I feel like I've been dealt one of the worst hands when it comes to this. During my freshman year, there was only myself, my roommate, and a few others as the only freshmen on our floor (where we stayed, there weren't many freshmen) and we kinda bonded throughout the year, but the problem was that some of those kids already knew each other and had plans to live in a room together for the next year, pretty much leaving me on my own, and I've struggled to adapt since. I mean, I have acquaintances that I do other stuff with (for instance, I'm part of the campus radio station and I know a few people there) but no real friends or true happiness. Add the fact that I'm shy and that's how my first two years of college have been socially (although it didn't hit me till last year when I didn't have my other friends on a normal basis).

Fast forward to this upcoming (junior) year and I'm going to an off-campus apartment (for money purposes), and the three people who I'll be living with are seniors and (presumably) already know each other, making matters worse. Has my window of opportunity closed? That's what I'm worried about, since my brother (who goes to another school) has been my only true friend in my life.

Answer 1

No its not!

Just make a friend and get to know theirs..

Answer 2

I am sorry you feel so anxious about this. It's hard, especially in college and away from home. But You sound like a really cool guy and I bet if you give yourself a chance you will find some great friends. Just don't try too hard. Hold your head up and think positive thoughts about yourself. Make it happenfor you. I have faith in you. Good luck buddy

Answer 3

Make friends with your roommates!  Even if it's only to meet their friends.  Who knows... maybe you'll meet a friend of a friend of a friend and just really click with that person.  

Answer 4

Sweetie, the window of opportunity only closes if you want it to.  You sound like a very nice person, who would present himself well, if you give yourself that opportunity.  Try to get over your shyness, and let your personality shine.  It sounds to me like you're just a little nervous about going back to college.  You are "presuming" the seniors already know each other.  So what if they do?  That doesn't mean they're going to leave you out in the cold.  I think you should try to relax and let loose a little.  :-)    Good luck!