Making my toddler sleep by himself.

Question

Me and my son are very close, we sleep together, because we stay w/ his grandma and no room for a crib, but even b4 we did, we cuddle a lot, lots of kisses. He is whiney, very demanding, he isn't an easy going baby, but he isn't boring either, I love him for that. He wont fall asleep unless I am holding him, and I get irritated now when i am laying w/ him, all that's on my mind is all I have to do, and the older he gets the more he resists it, so I am practically wrestling him. He will make f**t sounds, or start humping the bed, or breathing like darth vador, lol, @ least that's what it sounds like. I give him a bath and I put lotion on him, I give him hugs and kisses, but he wont budge he wont let me leave the room. ALSO I start work this tuesday, and I have been practicing getting up an hour b4 him, but instead of him now sleeping his normal time, he gets up 20 minutes after I do, so we are both up early for no reason because I can't work out, or do what I need to do. He wont stay asleep if I am not in the bed in the morning, when He is in his light sleep mode he wont sleep unless I am next to him. I need him to be more confortable to be alone. Especially sleeping. And dont get me wrong, I wont ever deny him affection when he wants it, but i need to get him ready for mommy working, I have to, and I need to work him around the schedule that can work for me.

Answer 1

It is a hard time. But you need to put him to bed at night and you leave the room. Also make him be quiet tell him what you expect and don't back down. I have 2 boys (2 &3). I am still telling them to lay down and stop talking.  

Answer 2

well i think its time to be firm. you can do the whole lavender lotion, nature sounds and keep the room cool for better sleep. but you need to tell him mommy is going back to work and she needs her sleep. you can do a chart and for each day he sleeps in his room he can get a little treat. and for every week he does this he can get a BIG surprise. that worked for my son, for money sake the big surprise can be anything going t the movies, ice cream something you know he will enjoy, good luck to you