Mamas~ Have you ever done surrogacy? Serious answers ONLY please!?

Question

I want to do surrogacy. I have a 22 month old, and I'm a single mother. My son is well taken care of, and I'm just worried that if I do surrogacy, he might not take it well. I know he's too young to understand why mommy wouldn't be able to throw him around and play with him like normal.

What are your experiences from doing surrogacy? Was it hard? Do you still keep in contact with the parents?

Answer 1

I was a surro-mom to a set of twins in 2002. My children were 2 and 4 at the time. They were involved as much as can be expected, they won't know any different. I had alot of help. They live in Japan and yes, we still stay in touch. It was one of the most awesome things I have been a part of. If you would like it, I can send you contact info for the agency I used in California.

Answer 2

The suromoms I know are really happy.  However, I've heard that it's really important to be completely finished with your own family first.  That will decrease the chances of post-delivery mind changing, and you'll also get to know how your body handles pregnancy better than if you carried after just having 1.  Also, it's best to be finished with your own children in case there are any complications during pregnancy and delivery that may prevent you from having any more.

It's probably best to get in touch with an agent and have a lot of discussions with them to get a better idea.

Answer 3

I have thought about it but I dont think I could do it cause after carrying the baby for 9 months I would not be able to part with it.

Answer 4

I have never been a surrogant mother but i do know sumone that was, its a wonderful thing to do for sumone, there are so many couples who cant have children and want them mor than anything in the world and ppl who surrogant for them is the most selfless thing u can do and the gift of life is priceless and to do it for sumone else is amazing....as for ur son, he is still very young to understand , the person i know still keeps in contact and sees the baby all the time and the child calls her by her first name, she has pictures and all also, she is so proud of wat she has done, she gave life to sumone and doesnt see it any different, good luck....

Answer 5

I think that if you could do it then go for it. It is an amazing thing.

Answer 6

I am actually thinking about having a surrogate mother for my husband and I. I have PCOS which doesn't let me get pregnant and even if I do I will either have a miscarriage or have it pre-term. My son was two months premature, now we are having the hardest time trying to get pregnant again!

EDIT: My husband and I are one of those couples that are interested in adopting or surrogacy.

Answer 7

I don't think your son would mind because it would be the same if you had another baby of your own which most moms do. If you really want to you should because so many people would appreciate you having a baby for them- but i think it would be too hard to give up the baby after you've grown attached, and you might always think what if you'd kept it? it really would be a great think to do for someone but it might be better to wait until you've finished having children for yourself.

I think you should if you think you could give it up, but it would be hard. If you do you'll be able to pick  nice family which would reassure you.

Good luck with whatever you do