Man-made diamond engagement ring?

Question

My friend called me up and went on and on about her $390 1 carat diamond engagement ring, only to tell me later that it was man-made. I'm engaged as well, and my fiance and I are planning to go ring shopping soon. My friend insists I get a man-made diamond because of the cost. When I told her I'd really rather it be real and smaller, I think she felt insulted. Anyway, is it really so terrible that I want a real diamond? I would just feel that I would have to constantly explain the fact that it was man-made. My fiance feels the same way. Also, it is my birthstone and I've never owned any diamond jewelry. Am I being s****. for wanting it to be real?

Answer 1

No you're not s****. for wanting a real diamond. (Not that there's anything wrong with man-made, just a preference) However, it doesn't have to be a honkin' big one.

For nearly the same cost as your friend's ring, you can get a lovely whole set with diamonds! I liked that my husband chose diamonds - yes, they are modest, but they're real.

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Answer 2

You're not s****., but you're not doing yourself any favors by making a big deal over real/not real with your friend. If she brings it up, just say that the cost of your diamond is between you and your fiance, and you feel tacky discussing it. Even better, say, "The price isn't what's important - I'm just so happy to be starting our lives together."

And if you get a man-made diamond, you certainly don't have to tell anyone. Nor should you tell them how much it cost. "That doesn't matter to me, I just think it's beautiful and I love my fiance so much!"

Answer 3

No you are  your own person so get what you want.You know, each to their  own.

Answer 4

Why would you need to always explain its man made? You dont have to say how much it cost, or who made it. You might want to do some reading up on diamonds, where they came from, and how they got into the store youre purchasing from. Have you ever seen the movie BLOOD DIAMOND? People DIE because of the diamond industry. Manmade are exactly the same, but better quality and the prices rock. Not saying youre s****. or anything at all like that, but just giving you another option to consider. If I could go back and do it again, Id get a man made. But to each his own, and your friend should respect any decision you've made. Good luck!

Answer 5

some people have issues with real diamonds because of all of the killing, etc that goes along with the mining of them.  But if you want a real one, get a real one. And by the way, no one would be able to tell if you got a man made one so you really would not have to explain anything to anyone.  get what you want

Answer 6

You do understand that both are made of the element carbon with the application of lots of pressure - right?

This is like wanting an oxygen tank, rather than natural oxygen.  You'll pay the extra dough even though they are both O2.  The exact same thing.

Reconsider why you want the real diamond - the only thing you can prove by owning one is that very poor people were exploited so that you coul wear it.

You can't say that about a man-made diamond!

Answer 7

When it comes to engagement rings, there are all kinds in different price ranges.   Man-made gems are just one kind & they are purchased for a variety of reasons.

There is nothing "snobbish'" about wanting a real diamond.  It's a good investment.

Answer 8

Nope, you're not being s****. at all! My birthstone is a Diamond as well (Yay for April!). I've owned a TON of diamonds and I do love them. My fiance would NEVER buy a 'man-made' diamond. He doesn't like fake things. But it's not bad either way, if you want a man-made one or not.

Answer 9

You are not being s****..  I think most women want a real diamond and are willing to sacrifice size for quality.  Don't let her make you feel bad.  She might be trying to make herself feel better because she didn't get a diamond.

Answer 10

it's not terrible or s****., but if you guys are a little strapped for cash, it's not very smart to buy a real one right now.

i guess I might sound a little s****. because my fiance bought me a Moissanite Diamond, which is a man-made stone, but honestly, it looks and feels like a real diamond.

They even sell it at Kay Jewelers and other mainstream jewelry shops.

I've shown my ring to numerous other women,including my friend who is a jeweler, and no one has ever guessed it's not a real diamond. they don't ask, i don't tell!

the best part is my ring is 1ct and only costs $800.00 Plus I can upgrade it later. My Mom has a real 1ct diamond that she got from Kay's, but when we put our hands next to each other and look at our rings, mine actually sparkles more than hers which she hates. lol

Answer 11

Nope. She got what she wanted. Get what you want.

Answer 12

of course not.  your friend is entitled to her jewelry and you are entitled to yours.  just try not to discuss jewelry with her anymore.

i would want a real diamond.

Answer 13

No, someone else is just trying to lay a guilt trip on you. If you insist on a natural diamond, even though it's smaller and costs more, she might start to feel badly about her own ring. To get you to jump on the lab-created diamond bandwagon makes her feel more confident in her own choice.

Diamond is your birthstone, it carries a spiritual vibrance for you. You're drawn to it. You can't help what you love.

There are conflict-free diamonds to be had, so that needn't be an issue.

Answer 14

its not insulting to want a real diamond of course, but i can see how what you said may have inadvertently hurt your friends feelings...

at least apologize for maybe miswording what you meant, let her know that her ring is beautiful, and that your really excitedd that your birthstone just happens to be diamond so that why youre going that route; most importantly let her know you didn't mean to put her down.

it takes a very confident woman to have something other than a diamond as an e-ring! especially if its a man-made diamond- to admit it! thats something to be respected and celebrated.

i hope things go well for you and your friend.