Manager verbally attacks me and when I gave notice. What now? ?

Question

I will try to make this short.

I gave my two week resignation today. My manager was NOT happy with me and walked out of my office telling me to put it in writing. She didn't respond to me when I called her back to explain I had a letter already to go. She left the office early ( that was planned )

I got a call about 1/2 hour later from her when she said she was sorry about the about her behavior. She then asked me if I would consider staying a month as this was customary for management. She also then asked me when I got the job offer. I told her on Friday. She said to me " oh that was when you were having oral surgery?" ( That is honest to god what I was having done ) She also said, " I know your husband is working part time now". What do you need the extra money for? I couldn't answer her! I was floored.

I tried to explain that I have been told that this company often will escort you out of the office upon resignation and that I was expecting this that is why I gave a 2 week notice.

She told me that THIS office never does that and if you want to leave today you can.

I told her I had things to complete before my resignation date and would like to do so. She said Honey, we can talk in the morning about it....

I personally feel so traumatized that I can't complete my time I promised. I am in tears and emotionally a wreck.

Advice? I called off sick today due to the stress and I am able to start at my new job..... asap.

Answer 1

Ok, the 2 weeks notice is a choice, it's never mandatory.   you were being polite enough 2 give them a 2-week-notice, but it seems like your boss has a hard time handling it professionally- bringing up all sorts of issues that have nothing to do with your resignation.

Anyways, I personally think you should talk to your H.R. about this situation and tell them how stressed you are and if you do choose not to go back, then make sure the H.R. knows the situation and write a new letter of resignation and mail it to H.R. office.

p.s. someone here wrote that you should leave if you wanted to and also not expect a reference from that company, but IT'S NOT TRUE!! it's 2 different things, reference is reference and resignation is a resignation - also, make sure your H.R. has the last day interview with you regarding your experience with them.

Answer 2

You gave in your two weeks notice, and that's that. It's none of her business why you were leaving. So what, your husband has a part time job, so what, you have a dentist appointment? She reacted very immaturely. There was nothing you could do.

If you don't need to stay the two weeks, don't. Start your new job.

A word of advice though, never tell your boss that you're leaving your job for another one... they don't like that, and they won't give you a good reference.

Answer 3

Wow, doesn't sound like much of an attack to me and I have to admit that I'm not sure how you got into a management position with such a thin skin.  She said you could leave if you want to so go ahead if you're that traumatized.  Just don't expect to be paid (she said you could leave she didn't tell you to) and don't expect a reference.

Answer 4

While I sympathize with your situation - it's uncomfortable working out a notice period when you know you're under intense pressure - I also think you'd have a great deal more success in the business world if you grew a thicker skin.

The boss who was unprofessional in accepting a reasonable notice is the one in the wrong here. If you let others control your feelings or get you so worked up that you cannot perform, you're handing off a great deal of power.

Just do your job, square your shoulders, be pleasant, and do not discuss your new position in depth at your current company.

Good luck.

-Stuart

Answer 5

Your manager acted in a very unprofessional manner. She was right to call you back and apologize.  You should both work out when your last day will so that there will be no misunderstandings.  Start taking your personal stuff home as soon as you can. (Get a couple of boxes and take some out each day so you don't have a bunch of stuff to do on your last day).

As for the oral surgery- bring in a form from the surgeon saying you were in the office.  You had surgery that day, not an interview!  Besides, according to the HIPPA Laws, your sick leave and reasons for them are none of her business!

And, as far as your personal income is concerned, that's off limits for her, too. She's lashing out and not doing it in a very professional manner. It is probably good that you are leaving.

Answer 6

ALWAYS REMEMBER, IN ANY PERSONAL SITUATUION, THAT YOU ARE AS ENTITLED TO YOUR OWN HAPPINESS AS YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR IT. IT'S YOUR LIFE, MOVE IT ON DOWN THE LINE.

Answer 7

Do not get into another personal discussion with the manager.  You are under no obligation to explain why you need extra money or any other reason for leaving.  If there is an HR department for your present company, you should take a copy of your resignation letter to them and explain to them what happened when you offered it to your manager.  If there isn't a formal HR office, then you should talk with your manager's supervisor.    Offer to follow through with the two weeks notice and then also ask for a letter of reference (from HR or manager's supervisor, not your manager) given your satisfactory service to the company.  Maintain your promise of working the two weeks prior to starting your new job.  That way if in the future you need a reference from that company, you can be assured of getting a good one.  Good luck on the new job!   It's good to be leaving that company because your manager sounds like a nut or at the least an over-stressed and unprofessional manager.

Answer 8

That does suck.  She is just obviously upset that you are leaving.  You must do a really good job for her to be so upset.  TALK to her.  Maybe she took your leaving personally.  Would you stay if they paid you more money?  You will regret turning your back and not ever knowing why or what upset her so much.  Do you have a home number you can call her tonight.  If she don't answer, leave a message apologize to her if you hurt her feelings, but you have to do what is best for you and your future.

Answer 9

Leave and don't look back.

Answer 10

Drop your old job like a sack of potatoes, and start your new one ASAP.

You've already got a new (and better, from what I can gather) job, so why should you have to take c**p from your old employer from the next two weeks?

Your boss has shown that she's clearly not going to take kindly to your resignation, so don't give her the benefit of torturing you for two more weeks. Leave now.

Answer 11

I'd say leave as well... but I quickly learned that it is bad to burn your bridges. One day you will need to list her as a previous manager for a reference. I'd try to finish your time if you can. Just think happy thoughts. If you can't, just leave and hopefully you'll never have a company require you put her for a reference! :) Good luck.

Answer 12

She is a bad breaker upper. Do not trust her. Try your best to finish out the two weeks without calling in sick. Take a tape recorder with you to protect yourself, and expect the double cross

Future employers hold it against you if you do not give two weeks notice. Make an effort to be civil and not react in kind like her.

Answer 13

its up to you, if you want to use them as a referance i would stay

or contact someone higher and find out how this could affect you in the long run( with like..a referance i said and what not)

i wouldnt stay tho , if you can leave, then leave..you dont deserve this ****

Answer 14

You should go back and finish the two weeks. You acted appropriately and her handling of the situation was not. The easy road would be to avoid the situation and not go in but the higher ground is to do what you promised. It is only for two weeks. You then can move into new job with no loose ends or bad residue from old position.

Answer 15

s***w that stupid job, forget about it. See aren't you glad that your leaving that h**l hole. Plus, If you ask me, its not any of her business why your husband got a part time. You should have said that its a personal decision as to why you are leaving, and you don't appreciate her tone of voice. period! That lady is whacko, and shouldn't be leading any company. Take your day off lighly, enjoy it, drink some tea, watch Oprah or something, just focus on your new job and forget about that witch. Oh and dont complete c**p, just take off, she deserves that and a cup of coffeee to her face.