Marriage, babies, death and dying?

Question

I am at the age now where my friends are getting married, having babies and my grandparents are elderly. I lost my Grandpa last yr due to age etc...

I guess I'm lucky enough to have had grandparents because I'm now 30. Anyway, how do I deal with the loss of grandparents. I mentioned I lost my grandfather which was difficult last yr and now my Nan isn't very well...

I understand we all must die to let "new comers" into this world. My friends and family memebers are either married and having babies now. My turn is yet to come... I do have a b/friend.

My question is, how do you deal with a loss of loved ones?

Answer 1

" the dead is never dead if you remember him/her once in a while "

as an Atheist , I don't believe in an afterlife , I remember all the good days I had with my grandparents , the wonderful memorizes will still be alive in my mind .

I honor them and  I  think positively about the times I shared together

Find something that gives you comfort. For some it will be to listen to very uplifting music. For others sitting quietly is the only thing they are capable of doing.

There are some phases people go through during the first few days, weeks and months.

     You may feel lonely, like no one knows how you feel. This is normal, and you need to remember other people have also felt like this, so you are not alone.

Answer 2

I use to think that death was scary and final. Even though we know that this life is temporary and the after life is our goal. It still doesn't make it easier for any loss of a loved one. Now I know that after we loss that loved one they are still with us and hear us. I believe this and I think God allows them to see our accomplishments here on earth. We may not see them or be able to talk to them like you would a friend, but they see us. Make sure you tell that person how much they have meant to you and how much you love them. And allow your children to know them through you. You will have your good days and your bad days when it happens and that's OK and natural in the course of things. But, try to remember all the good times you spent together and I sure a smile will break on your face. And remember this loved one will be seen again by you and all the other people she has loved and left in this world. And finally cherish every moment  with her now while you both can appreciate it. You will have these times to remember forever. God bless you.

Answer 3

Indeed, how do you deal with life?

I believe in the hope of the Gospel - that God became a man, died for our sins, rose from the dead, and promises eternal life to all who believe in Him.

I know of no other hope with any substance to it, that will truly bring lasting peace to the soul.

Please, read the Gospel for yourself.

I highly recommend you begin with the Gospel according to John:

start here:

http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?sea...

click 'next chapter' when you get to the bottom of the page.

Answer 4

ask your parents how to deal with your grandparents death, i lost my dad, my life ended then too. sorry dad.  

Answer 5

you deal with it by understanding this:

You are BORN

You LIVE

and

You DIE.

Answer 6

Think of all the good times and remember them always but get on with life.

Answer 7

You just deal with it like you would any situation understand people will be asking the same once you're gone.

Answer 8

By believing that you'll see them again when it's YOUR turn to die :) They know you love them and feel your loss, but the fact that they're still in your mind makes it clear that they're still somewhere in the other side :)

Answer 9

Everyone deals with this in their own way..time is a healer but that's unfortunately the cycle of life and it's extremely hard. I sometimes wish I could appreciate my parents more.

Some of my friends are starting to have children, if you think you are ready then go for it.

Answer 10

I'm still struggling with the death of my nan, nearly a year ago. It's really made me think too much about my own mortality. I guess just time is all we have..

Answer 11

The same way you deal with any kind of loss.  

If you are expecting a loss, then you will not shocked or suffer much grief when it actually happens. Unexpected losses, are the ones which cause major grief.

How do you deal with unexpected loss? - you research on the internet regarding what to expect from the grieving process.  When you know what to expect,  you can explain to yourself how you feel and you will know the etiology.  

Knowing why you feel a certain way, and what changes in how you feel to expect,  you can prepare and manage for the symptoms of grief. (Just like you can manage the symptoms of a cold. You cannot prevent a cold once it has arrived, but you can manage the symptoms)

Answer 12

Thats life im afraid everyone goes through it,just live your life the way that u wanna live it and dont be afraid of no one but god.