Marriage, kids.......

Question

my finance wants to have a baby once we are married, he said just like his parent, he wants us to make this baby on our wedding night. I love him and i do want to have a baby idk if now is the right time. i keep having these dreams about a beautiful baby boy, my baby boy. Should i do make this baby with my soon to be husband?

Answer 1

It's up to you.

My ex-wife and I waited a year to have our first child and it made it really special(no we didn't divorce because of s*x life-she left us for another man!).

If you want to wait, then wait. If your fiance really loves you, he'll wait to have kids with you.

Good luck and God Bless!

Answer 2

YOUR body, YOUR decision. TBH, your fiance is a jerk if he can't respect what you want.

Answer 3

Always remember who has more control of th the birth control!

Answer 4

Urge him to enjoy your first year as newlyweds living in wedded bliss.

Parenting is a LIFETIME committment, and well you have the rest of your life for that.

Enjoy each other and being married for a short time.

Answer 5

Even if you have lived together, being married takes some adjustments for both people.  Pregnancy can be a happy time, but at times it can also be a very stressful period of your life.  There's no time off, no do overs, no catching your breath.  You need to know how and when you can count on him.  You need to know how he handles stress and how he's going to handle you when you are feeling sick and tired.

Please, enjoy being married a little while.  Making a baby should be a joint decision because the time is right for you both, not so he can have bragging rights to tell his buddies that he did the deed on your wedding night.  

If he is mature and loves you, and you explain your hesitancy about having a baby immediately, and your wish to wait a little while, he should take your feelings into account and be willing to compromise.  

(Being able to calmly resolve conflict, or differences of opinions, in a quiet, positive way can be the difference between a long and happy marriage and the constant tug and pull of one person trying to dominate another.  You need to learn if you two can do this now.  It's hard to learn after the fact.)

Take a little time to save up for your bundle of joy.  There is an amazing amount of stuff one needs for a first baby--clothes for you, doctor's bills, special vitamins, a crib, a car seat, lots of baby clothes because they grow so quickly and mountains of diapers.  (Babies can go through 10-12 a day.)  Having a cushion of savings will remove one of the stresses of having a baby, and give you a way to plan your family together.

Answer 6

if you're having second thoughts, then you should wait a year or two. it's gonna be a life long commitment and if really loves you, he'll wait

Answer 7

It's all up to you.

My soon to be husband wants to do the same thing.

If you are on any kind of birth control make sure you take it out way before your wedding so you can.

But then again i would make sure you are ovulating on that day though....

Answer 8

if you are having second thoughts dont do it. one year or two isnt that long of a wait when you are looking at a life long commitment

Answer 9

As opposed to making the baby with somebody besides your husband?

Answer 10

i already have a child...i had my daughter when i just turned 18 and yea it is hard now i am so happy that i had my daughter young! Its completely up to you but having a baby young doesnt ruin your life or take all your friends away!

Answer 11

If this is what you want, then do it.

I personally don't see any harm in waiting a few months after you guys are married before trying for a child.

Answer 12

There are many things to keep in mind... like your age if you're older, been together for a while, and you feel okay with it. Than go for it!

However there are no guarantees you'll get pregnant during the honeymoon.

If you are young and haven't been together long that I suggest you wait and enjoy each other.

What ever you decide i'm sure you'll be a wonderful parent!

Answer 13

it might be a better idea to wait especially if you do not know if you are ready or not. i agree with some of the others-if you are not sure your ready maybe you should just take some time and just enjoy being married.