Marriage?? Serious answers please!?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years now and have a baby on the way. We are both sixteen and really want to make this all work out, and both want to get married. My mother has given permission and his mother is still thinking. We have both explained how we feel to his mother and she says she understands. The thing she says she is afraid of is that one of us will drop out of school or something like that. How can we reassure her that we both want to stay in school and raise this baby together? We are more serious about this than you can probably imagine. We are at an alternative school that works to help teens like us finish high school and works with us when it comes to our baby and the responsibility we will have.

I just want to reassure his mother that we are serious about this and want to do what we think is best. Any Ideas?

Answer 1

Mozel tof.

But if it were my son, I'd move him to Sweden.

Just kidding.  Kinda.

Answer 2

You have already reassured her by promising to stay in school, now you need to show by action and she will gain more faith in how determined you and your boyfriend are to make it work. I am sure you both are well aware of the challenges that come with being so young and finding yourselves with the responsibilities of a child and the challenges that come with marriage. Pre-marital counselling and parenting classes will be of great benefit to you both. I wish you both all the luck in the world.  

Answer 3

Well, it sounds like you two are on the right track and are willing to grow up for the baby's sake.

One of my best friends in high school married her husband when she was 15 and they are still married. So, I do believe that young marriages can last - especially when you consider our past history in society.

Just keep doing the right thing and I am sure that it will all fall into place.

Good luck.

Answer 4

If you really love each other and want to get married then you should still feel that way in 2 years. Then you wont need permission. I would try living together and raising the baby together, and if your still going strong when you are 18 then go for it. You can still be a family without a piece of paper.

Answer 5

I can imagine how serious you are about this. I also know that no matter what anyone says you won't change your mind, or for that matter listen to what anyone else thinks.

Let me try. You and your boyfriend are going to become completely different people in the next 5 years. You are going to go through so much hardship and miss out on so much growing up, you will have a mid-life crisis at age 35. The baby will pay for this. My mom agreed to sign the papers like your mom. My mom was a fool. She should have been a good parent and told me no. You have no idea what will happen to you and all the problems you will encounter. In 10 years you will be like me and wish you would have done things differently. Only then it will be too late.

You are standing at a fork in the road of life right now. One side will bring all kinds of heart ache. The other may or may not, but at least it's a start in the right direction.

Now forget everything I said and go do what your 16 yr old mind tells you it FEELS is right. Feelings are the most important thing in life. Hopefully you are smart enough to listen.

Answer 6

Just stay in school...stop talking about it and do it.

Answer 7

Rent the movie: Juno and watch it with her, and then after it is over, tell her that you are going to finish school and everything will be fine.  

Answer 8

Maybe you can show her that your'e both on the right path, FIRST before jumping the gun and getting married. Graduating and finishing school is small compared to a life long committment. Take your time, love will be there, and try being engaged for a couple months.

Wish you luck!

Answer 9

way too young, I feel especially because your still in school, and speaking of which, do you really think your going to finish school after the baby is born?

Alternative school hmmm....listen, not for nothing but you should not tell people that you go to an alternative high school, I know what alternative high schools are for, they are for kids like your self who basically got kicked out of their own home districts schools because of behaviors, kids that couldn't make it in a high school setting, so you got kicked out because you were a student with issues correct? If you couldn't function in a normal high school setting, what makes you think you are going to be able to handle the stress of being a mother? The stress of finishing school?, what about supporting you baby?, is your BF going to support the both of you or are you just another young couple who will end up on welfare?, like so many others do,please next time use birth control, you know how to spread your legs, then you should have known how to protect yourself from getting pregnant too. I hope you wait til your much older to decide to  have any other kids, because I am  plain old tired of working 15 hours a day to support welfare people who think by getting pregnant all the time will prevent their lazy butts from having to work.